When they always have a friend with them

[warhuhwow]

I like a girl in my linguistics class. I know a few things about her and know exactly what I could talk to her about were I to approach her. Problem is, she ALWAYS has a friend with her.

 

I don't know why but I see this as a huge wall. If I saw her on her own, I'd approach her no problem. But that damn friend is ALWAYS next to her.

 

Is this a genuine problem that a lot of people have - approaching someone who's always with other people? Or am I just being silly?

[pinkelephant]

No, this is a very common problem guys have actually. You're not being silly. Unfortunately, I have no advice.

[Alabama]

No, a lot of people have that problem. This may sound weird, but you could ask to speak alone with her or try to find sometime she is alone. But yay, this is a sticky situation.

[galaxy71]

It's a problem for many guys because of their own self-limiting beliefs. However, there are plenty of confident guys who are not afraid of approaching a girl when she is with her friends. When you see that girl with her friend, you must win over both girls. Once you win the approval of her friend, she will let you focus on that girl you like.

 

I can't stress it enough. That girl will judge you by how you treat her friend. You need to win over the group before you focus on the girl you like.

[offshore00]

If it's really a problem I would just wait till she's by herself. Her friend is bound to miss a class at least once!

[theclockman]

I have this problem, RIGHT NOW!! theres a girl at work that i really like, but can only seem to manage to talk to her when shes on her own! which is a pain as shes with a friend 9 times of 10 that i see her, when iv caught her on her own iv spoke to her fine, but i cant do it when she has a friend there, one of her better friends i work with and i have a laugh with, so i wouldnt be as bad talking to her if that friend was there, except where she works in a different department, she has friends there, the likes of which i barley even know there names! but the only advice i can give, (if any) which is what i do, is to try and catch her on her own, or maybe talk to one of her friends before you talk to her, just so THAT ice has been broken, and then maybe you wont feel as bad.

 

But i hear you mate, im in the same annoying boat!

[galaxy71]

There is a problem if you wait for her to be by herself. When she realized that you waited for her to be by herself, you might make her uncomfortable and annoyed. What's so confident about that???

 

I also remember the countless times I never talked to a girl because she was always with her friends. You are only limiting your opportunities when you never approach a girl when she is with your her friends.

[ghost69]

i'd just do it. if you are trying to ask her out, who cares about her friend. if she shuts you down, her friend might want you just based on the confidence you just displayed. never let a friend bash your advances. don't lost the opportunity. people do it all of the time.

 

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[Altruist]

Don't worry about the friend. Just approach her. Ask for her friend's number as well. she will admire you for being confident.

[ghost69]

yeah. ask them both out.

 

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