have a slight problem here

[King_of_Crunkness23]

i just went through a breakup, we were together for 7 years. When we were together my sex drive was on over-drive... i mean if was a 5 speed it was a ferrari, it was bad.. but now that were not together anymore, it seems like i cant even get it up, viagra? naaa!! im a mark martin fan but i dont take that crap!! being 24 years old, meeting some lady that lives down the road from you, and getting embarrassed cause you cant have sex because your emotionally torn apart sucks!!!! what should i do? eat more brocolli? lol!!

[Mar]

I think that's just your body's way of telling you it's not ready for another relationship, sexual or otherwise. Obviously, the signals are coming from your head, (the BIG one!) so just ride it out. You might think you're over her, but if you're having a problem getting an erection with another woman, it could be that subconsciously you're not ready to yet. What do you think about when you're with another woman? Are you totally focused on her? Or are there thoughts of your ex creeping in there? If you DO feel that you're over her, then I WOULD suggest Viagra....it's not a "wussy" thing to do, you know. Hell, I haven't had sex in 8 months because my b/f says he can't get an erection, I'd buy him a TRUCKLOAD of Viagra tomorrow if I could.....and no one needs to know you're taking it, either....that's the beauty of it!

[AwdreeHpburn]

I agree. Sex is a whole bunch percent mental. If you're not turned on mentally, aren't "there" mentally, or are pre-occupied, you won't have good, if any, sex.

[ShySoul]

Sex is 90% mental/emotional. If you are coming out of a relationship, you are probably not ready to be having sex with someone else. Take the time to heal and be by yourself, enjoying being single. Don't think you need to be having sex with other people and don't feel bad because your sex drive isn't as high as it once was.