justme5 Posted February 16, 2007 Share Posted February 16, 2007 I've recently had a windfall that turned out to be greater than expected. Things are good, really good. I'm pretty conservative so I have reinvested it and still drive a ratty japanese car from 1994. I got to this success due to hard work and honestly, I'm pretty smart. I also got very very lucky. That being said, I've experienced something that is really bothering me lately in many of my relationships. Some of my family and many of my friends have become overbearing. Everyone with an opinion feels they can cross the boundaries and tell me what I "should" do with my money. They also posture a lot and compete about things they never used to. This has become so relentless that I've shut down and avoided most of them. Having laid back conversations about the weather is a thing of the past. Every conversation I have with many of these involves some sort of competition. I feel that these people are far from giving me credit for the success that I earned. By myself. Without any of their help. There are a couple of friends that have remained positive and the conversations are pleasant and rewarding, but they are the minority. I've come to the conclusion that I have an awful lot of negative people in my life, and some are looking for a hand out. My father went as far as to joke that if I died the first thing he'd do was buy himself a brand new car. He was fishing for me to buy him a car. I haven't even bought myself a new one, but he hints at the car. I know he's not that heartless, but money really does bring out the control freak in people. I feel better today because I've basically cut most of these people out for the past week, but I was headed for a melt down. Every time I talked to one of these people, it was just filled with negativity and control. These people aren't letting me live my life, so the only thing I know how to do is withdraw. I don't know what else to do. I can't cut then out forever. Some I think I have to because the negativity is just too much. I don't know where it's coming from, but it really is overwhelming. I could really use some serious advice on how to deal with these people before all of my relationships dry up due to something that was supposed to be the best thing that ever happened to me. thanks Quote Link to comment
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