valentines day confusion

[nutini67]

So I have had this weird relationship with this girl for about 5 months. We are not officially together, but she comes over just about every other day and we hang out/talk/make out, but no sex (she is devout christian). About 2 months ago we both confessed that we had feelings for each other, but it was just before our christmas break (about a month). So we decided to wait until we both get back to decide what to define ourselves as. When we got back, I told her I wanted to stay in the casual type of relationship we had before. She agreed, but lately I have sensed she might want more. At night when we lay together she will lay her head right up to mine and caress my face. I have also caught her staring at me while I was sleeping. Are those signs of deep emotion? Also, I fear that I am getting emotionally attached to her. Anyway, so valentines day came, and I decided to take her out for dinner. I got her some flowers as well. The thing that is bothering me is that she didnt get me anything at all. Am I being stupid for expecting a gift from her? I feel kind of crappy and let down. Like she doesnt care as much about me as I do her. Or do you think she wasnt expecting something from me since I have kept it to just casual "Dating"?

[sidehop]

Hi, I'm assuming this is the same girl that's devoted to her faith & not wanting to have a b/f that's not a Christian also? Do you think she may be afraid if the relationship there's no way out, whether she gets hurt or you get hurt? I wouldn't be upset because she didn't get you anything, after all you two did agree on a casual relationship, no?

[nutini67]

Hi, I'm assuming this is the same girl that's devoted to her faith & not wanting to have a b/f that's not a Christian also? Do you think she may be afraid if the relationship there's no way out, whether she gets hurt or you get hurt? I wouldn't be upset because she didn't get you anything, after all you two did agree on a casual relationship, no?

 

Yes, its the same girl. What do you mean in your second sentence? I guess I shouldnt be surprised that she didnt get me anything, but even my roommates were surprised. Eh, I just can't believe I get so amped up about things like this!

[Blsmith007]

Hey man, Its tough to say why she didnt get you any gifts but I look at it and think about it from her side. Yall are in a causal relationship means no commitment and V-day is for celebrating with the one you care about. And she could of been thinking that you werent getting her anything and if she got you something and didnt get anything back in return then she would be devastated, women are a lot more emotional and take more things to heart. I would see if she tries to make it up to you for what you did for her. Good Luck with everything, hopefully this helped.

 

Brandon

[Dilly]

Hey man, Its tough to say why she didnt get you any gifts but I look at it and think about it from her side. Yall are in a causal relationship means no commitment and V-day is for celebrating with the one you care about. And she could of been thinking that you werent getting her anything and if she got you something and didnt get anything back in return then she would be devastated, women are a lot more emotional and take more things to heart. I would see if she tries to make it up to you for what you did for her. Good Luck with everything, hopefully this helped.

 

Brandon

 

Thanks again Blsmith007, great points!!! I also think that since you asserted a desire to keep it on the casual side of things, that she might be conflicted emotionally (thus, the caressing and staring). Don't feel bad that she didn't get anything for you. Trust your feelings - she likes you! You made her happy. Be happy about that!!!