My ex sent me roses!

[ebsmith1]

OK so I haven't been here in a while and a lot has changed. Every day I told myself that my ex was not coming back and that I would never hear from him again and I just needed to get over it. I heard a rumor that he was looking for a house with his new girlfriend and was devastated all over again. So I called my mom and she told me to change my thinking, so I just thought to myself, I will hear from him again, we will be together again. The next day he e-mailed me. We exchanged e-mails a few times and each time he seemed to be fishing to see how I feel. Finally, I made it fairly clear and got this...

 

Thanks. I don't think they make words to describe how much that means to me. I think of you all the time. I have learned some things in the past few months, but not how to correct them yet. I just hope that if I can ever get it together that you're still around. I hope the past couple e-mails have not been out of line. I also hope that you know that my heart and body are not always in the same place. Before I start to cry, I'm just going to say thanks again and that I appreciate knowing that there's someone out there that still cares very much about me and knows what's really running through my head.

 

Then yesterday he called me at work. The conversation was casual and about nothing really. Later that day I had a dozen red roses show up at work with a blank card. I did some detective work and made sure they were from him. I e-mailed him and thanked him for them. I also called but he didn't answer. I got this response in e-mail and he called.

 

It's okay that you called. I knew you would know they were from me. There was no need to sign the card, especially since I couldn't get over there in person. Glad you like them. I just wanted to make sure that you knew I still love you.

 

I'm trying to play it cool! I think he's still with this other girl. I know that everyone thinks I'm nuts for still loving this guy, but I really think he left me because he freaked out about getting married. I'm also now a firm believer in thinking positive about what you want. As soon as I changed my thinking, he contacted me. I guess I'm not really looking for advice, I know what I want him to do if he comes back. I just wanted to share what has happened.

[Lady Bugg]

YAYYYYYYYYYYYY EB!!!!!!!!!!

I have been following your posts the last few months......and good for you!!!!

I really believe the way you've handled yourself though through all this has been a BIG factor. You've managed to do NC with dignity.....a lot of us could learn from you.

 

I am SO happy for you.........I know how much this means to you..and I HOPE you are one of the few success stories on getting back together!!!

[kate111]

Be careful if he still with the other girl.

[ebsmith1]

Don't worry....I'm not going back into this all stupid and in love. I know what he did to me and what he might do to this girl if they are still together. He needs therapy and that's going to have to happen for us to get back together.

[kate111]

Just remember that what he is doing to her he may do to you someday.

 

But it's great he has contacted you, if for nothing more than revenge!

 

How did you do it? No contact?

[ebsmith1]

Oh he already did do this to me...so I know what might happen. I made all of the typical mistakes when we first broke up. I e-mailed and called and cried and reasoned with him. He would respond, but it always felt like he was talking to someone he barely knew. So then I did NC and was successful for 3 months. I broke it with a text on New Year's Eve. I then sent him an e-mail when the Colts won the playoffs. Then I did nothing. I went back to NC thinking that there was no point anymore. Literally the day after I told myself that we were going to be together and this was all going to work out for the best, he sent me an e-mail. It was the first one he sent on his own since the breakup. This was Monday!

[ebsmith1]

Oh and in case you were wondering. We were together for a little over three years. He proposed in July and we broke up in August.

[ahhh2jz]

eb! im happy for you!!! I'm still sticking it out with the NC. I hope mine can take a turn for the better too!

[ebsmith1]

I am going to sound like I've joined a cult here but....really focus on what you want, imagine it happening, feel it happening, live like its going too and don't tell yourself anything negative about it. See what happens from there.

[toonicegirl]

i know what you are talking about... it is simply LAW OF ATTRACTION !!!... im trying to act just like you do according to the "secret"... theres no point to cry about the past...this is something that happened, gave us lesson, made us the way we are right now...so just like the law says...we should be grateful for who we are and what we have right now...and try to picture ourselves in better position in the future

 

and im really trying to make it real and although i cut my ex from my life...hes trying to stay in touch with me and even sent me valentines wishes in text message today

 

and im not weird or crazy or anything like that...i just read about it lately and i watched oprah show last week

 

good luck and keep your positive attitude !!!

[ebsmith1]

The Secret! That's it...I read the book in a day, but before that my mom had seen the show and told me what to do. She said just see it in your mind...the next day it started! It works!

[bigheart09]

The Secret! That's it...I read the book in a day, but before that my mom had seen the show and told me what to do. She said just see it in your mind...the next day it started! It works![/quote

 

Oprah was talking about that last week.

[keefy1972]

eb I've recently gotten more educated on the power of positive thinking also. It's a very real thing. I know for some that don't buy into it that it seems to be some kind of cultish thing, but it really isn't. Is a science that can't be measured by scientific instruments. Good for you.

[Pisces_Princess]

Hi EB...

 

I really needed to read a post like this today. I am struggling with NC (about 15 days) after the end of a two year relationship, 1 living together.

 

I will try the positive thinking and could really do with some good vibes heading my way...xxx

[ebsmith1]

I suggest reading "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne or watching the DVD. It can work in all aspects of your life.

[ebsmith1]

Oprah will be having another show about The Secret tomorrow.

[Pisces_Princess]

Hi EB...

 

I am in England. I have never heard of The Secret xxx

[ebsmith1]

Well it's not really "a secret" it's the Law of Attraction and people have been studying it for years. This book and DVD is just a new presentation with more real world examples. It's the idea that if you think positive about things and do not allow negative thoughts then you will get what you desire. Basically you should really think about what you want and act as though you already have it. Ask for it and it will happen. It is the idea that there is plenty of everything to go around for everyone, you just have to ask for it. You ask "the Universe" which is really whatever higher power you believe in.

 

Up until learning about this I had decided that my relationship with my ex was over. I lived as though he wasn't coming back and would never call me. I heard a rumor about him that upset me and my mom told me to ask for what I wanted. That night, I asked and the next day he e-mailed me for the first time since we broke up where I didn't e-mail him first. Skeptics are telling me that he's just crawling back, but I know that its because I asked for this. I'm not scared like I was before. I asked for it just the way I wanted it and so far it is going exactly that way. I even asked that he would send me roses on Valentine's Day and he did. I may sound crazy, but its working.

[Pisces_Princess]

Thanks for that.

 

I may just give it a try! xxx

[keefy1972]

It doesn't sound crazy at all once you get into understanding the dynamics of how the law of attraction works. We individually create our own realities with our thoughts. Our thoughts are the sperm that impregnates our reality. They control our moods, our moods put out vibrational energy, either positive or negative, and that energy draws back to us things that were attracted by that energy. Much like a magnet. It's a very interesting thing to learn about.

[keefy1972]

I must also add that your brainwaves emit energy also and that energy must be in harmony with your vibrational energy. Simply meaning that you really feel what you think. Say if you just think that you're rich but you don't feel it (believe it) then your energies aren't in harmony, and it will take longer for manifestation to occur.

[amazonqueen]

Keefy1972~

Yes! I have also been studying the Law of Attraction. Awesome stuff.

[toonicegirl]

I'm trying to play it cool! I think he's still with this other girl. I know that everyone thinks I'm nuts for still loving this guy, but I really think he left me because he freaked out about getting married.

 

my ex was a jerk but i love him... im not gonna put my story here but i have a question:

 

you dont have any problems with trying to get back with him knowing that he slept with other girl?

 

and yes..i know law of the attraction too....thats why my ex is coming back to my life all the time cause i think about him all the time

[Wandering_Sword]

I'm also now a firm believer in thinking positive about what you want. As soon as I changed my thinking, he contacted me. I guess I'm not really looking for advice, I know what I want him to do if he comes back. I just wanted to share what has happened.

 

That's great to hear. I'll give it a try since I have nothing to lose anyways Besides, there is too much negative thinking, we should be thinking in the positives.

[ebsmith1]

That's exactly what I thought Wandering Sword. I was so down and still crying a lot and just all around miserable. So, I thought why not try this? Is it going to hurt me to think positive? It's done the complete opposite, all it has done is help me! One of the things the book says is that when you focus all of your energy on something, you get more of that same thing. So if you are focusing on lets say debt, and how much you have, that's all you are going to get is more debt. I have a lot of debt right now, but all I'm focusing on is having the money to pay it, and guess what, I do! Some would say that all this is is a coincidence because I got my tax return back....well, I can pay my bills right? The tax return didn't get lost, I don't have more bills, so....