sayer7 Posted February 13, 2007 Share Posted February 13, 2007 I've had a long distance relationship with a man 400 miles away for alittle over a year (we've been close friends for over 7 years) and last October he basically flaked out and told me he didn't do distance well, and then two weeks later changed his mind and told me he wanted to work on the relationship until I moved up there, however long it took for me to get there because he said he could see himself "spending the rest of his life with me." Back in October after he called things off, I found his active personal ad which was something I expected to find- I figured he'd start looking again. But then 2 weeks after he'd changed his mind, I confronted him about the ad and he agreed to take down all his personal ads (he had several posted) because I'd told him it made me feel insecure especially with the distance. Two days ago I looked at one of the personal ads again and noticed that he'd visited and updated it again January 28th, 2007. Feb. 1st he'd sent me Valentine's gifts and flowers and a wonderful Valentine's Card telling me how much I meant to him. The ad title reads: 36 year old Man Looking For Women for Erotic Chat or Email, Intimate Relations, Discreet Relationships, Group sex (3 or more!) or Other "Alternative" Activities I feel betrayed and I don't know how to confront him about this. When we talk on the phone we're the closest of friends-- but then I read his personal ad and I feel like I can't believe anything he says, that I don't really know him at all, and I feel lied to every time he tells me "I want to spend the rest of my life with you." Am I totally over-reacting?? I haven't talked to him at all for 3 days now... he called today but I didn't pick up. I don't want to hurt him and make him feel like scum the day before Valentine's Day. How would any of you deal and confront him about this? Should I keep avoiding him until after Valentine's Day and then confront him about it? Any advice would be great. Thanks. Quote Link to comment
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