advice needed real quick

[uniballpen]

Hi,just after texting the ex after 40 odd days NC,I was trying to arrange to pick up bikes that I left at hers,she replied instantly saying she will ring me later tonight or tomorrow....I'm not too sure I want to do the small talk thing even though I really miss her etc(she broke up me)....what'll I txt back without being too harsh....or should I risk it and let her phone....ah dont know what to do........at the moment i think I'll just let it ring out....I know its over and she is just curious etc but I would rather not undo all my good work.....Oh Nooo

[Jeffrey2095]

Just let it ring....

 

You don't want to break 40 days... well technically it is broken.

 

But, I'd just let it ring... too much potential for past pain etc. to come about.

 

If not... short and to the point.

 

Maybe she could leave them for a friend to pick up...

 

Jeff

[darkpumpkin]

I agree. Let it ring. do not lose all the hard work you have done. If you need to contact her do it through text. It is less personal.

[uniballpen]

Just replied,"ah sure there was no need to call,will let u know in the next week or so when it suits to collect the bikes,"Don't want to hurt her feelings but I think the conversation would have been too strange,have to protect me now,thats what she did (dont mean that in a bad way)...have turned off the phone,going to have a bath and watch some tv,had a little cry when she replied saying she wanted to tak/just say hello,if she knew the pain I've gone through....resolute now there is no way I'm letting her/me hurt me again!!!

[uniballpen]

ah sh*t I hope I did the right thing...yeah i think i did,lets say if we had talked and reconciled id be so scared she'd do the same thing.....why does it have to be so hard to do the right thing

[littlemiss26]

I think that you have done the right thing. Why put yourself in a position to receive more pain. Stick to your guns.

[uniballpen]

Ah man,she rang me,had removed her no from phone and didnt recognise it.....if I had recognised it wouldnt have answered it,just when Im getting my sh*t together.....nothing really was said,superficial small talk,like she did when we were together.....why do they do that,she probably just wanted to arrange collecting the bikes but it was more curiosity,it feels sh*t to have to take the higher ground and be all pleasent,ah why did I tell her anything.....I feel sh*t.........ah f**k it,her problem,I'm not making the effort