Abit of help and some answers please ...

[chirp]

Do girls want sex like men do? Me and my girlfriend dont really have sex much maybe twice a month, it sounds like that is really crap but our circumstances aret the best, we both live at home both have younger sibling who cause no end of bother, both work weird hours and dont get much time to actually have sex. When we see each other its to genuinly want to see each other round each others house and in that time we dont get the chance to have sex beause of parents and siblings etc.... Before christmas she used to stay round my house on a friday night and we would get the chance to have sex as much as we could now shes worked every saturday since christmas time and its hard to have sex. Could she be going off sex with me? Thats one problem heres the other.

Whenever i mention sex she doesnt like to talk about it she used to but i dont know wether she going through a phase or what, When we do have sex she says and seems to enjoy it but shes not very willing to try new things, Myself i think it is a confindence thing but i would like abit of help trying to help her overcome it and feel more comfortable with me. Also should i lay of sex and the subject of for a while and see what happens lol. Much Appreciated.

[Honey Pumpkin]

I don't know about your girlfriend, but I have to be fairly relaxed and secure to have sex. Sort of like - there is no one in, so no one can hear or walk in, that kind of thing. So maybe it's just that it's hard to get that atmosphere going, and if you're feeling uptight then it's easier to just not have sex.

 

Could you maybe get a break together, so you can explore each other and sort of build up that feeling of physical intimacy for a few days, to discuss things and really feel you're together as a couple? And that might then be a time to talk about how you're going to make it work when 'normal' routine kicks in again?

 

I think you're right, it's a confidence thing, and it's not helpful if you don't get the chance to relax and explore with your lover. I know it's hard, but maybe you have to think laterally - could one of you move out? Do your parents mind you sleeping together when they're there? ie could you just put locks on the bedroom door to guarantee you won't be interrupted?

 

I think so long as you keep talking and don't just let this turn into a routine and a rut, things will work out.

 

Good luck!

[chirp]

our parents dont mind us being together, in octoer we had a holiday and we had sex like 4 times a day, and she sleeps round mine when she can but its not very often. Would this be a wise thing to do back off abit maybe not txt or ring her let her do the txting and ringing etc.. and wanting to see me just so i can see were i stand in our relationship then think about sex once ive got my answer lol. It sounds quite comical but it does get me down.

[Day_Walker]

I believe that you have to inquire about what is up with her. If she is going to dodge the question then you are going to have to think of some creative ways to approach the issue.