Need Help Really Bad!

[BigSyke]

Ive been in a relationship with a girl for a few months so far..and so far she doesnt trust me. My Ex would constantly be trying to break us up, even though she is now married.

 

My girlfriend thinks im still talking to her, even though i have not contacted her for months. Im starting to get broken up with alot now, and having to use my "sales" skills to reason with her.

 

up till yesterday, things have been PERFECT! We were getting a place together.

 

Its starting not to work anymore. Yesterday she called me at 8am, saying that Im still sleeping with her. This isnt true because I wait for my girlfriend every night, i dont even go out anymore.

 

I guess last night my girlfriend broke up with me and didnt tell me. She ended up hooking up with a few guys. Shes really a good girl.

 

Today ive been trying my hardest to make things work, i have been the perfect boyfriend this whole relationship, and keep doing things to prove how much i care.

 

She doesnt want to see me anymore, not even for 5 minutes, and im not doing ANYTHING WRONG! somebody please imput on what i can do, to prove that im not a player, and i care about her.

 

What do i have to do, to get that connection back that we had...

 

Yesterday i gave her space, didnt call her all day, and it turned against me.

[kellbell]

Hey there,

 

Is this the same you have been dating the last few months?

 

I am bit confused. You have posted about a woman whom you were supposed to marry.

 

 

[Dako]

Do you thrive on excitement?

If you have a child on the way, and haven't gotten past your ex, moving in with a volatile and jealous woman will make life unbearable.

 

You'd do well to stay away from women until you can offer and receive stability. Somehow, I suspect you can't.

 

Being in a relationship isn't just a matter of sales skills or being a good boyfriend.

It takes two committed people without a load of drama.

[elveden]

I know it's hard - but if she doesn't trust you, then any attempt you make to continue forming your relationship is pointless. Relationships centre around trust, and without is one will inevitably fail every time.

 

Talk to her. Tell her how you feel.. it'll make things better in the long run

[Siriana]

Hey, I cheked your previous thread and I am confused.

How does you current gf fits the pic?

A lot of drama here....

I can't connect the dots?!

[BigSyke]

no its a different girl i started dating right after the last one....and the last one got an abortion, and got married in vegas from what i hear....

 

ive tried telling her how i feel, ive tried really hard and this relationship i have done nothing wrong. nothing.

[Siriana]

Well in that case it is to early for you to have new gf.

No wonder this new one doesn't trust you - she sensed you're not ready.

You can't start new relationship that has long term potential only a month after that mess.

It's not important if you tried to be the best bf ever, but it's important how much you were really able to be in relationship again so soon.

[kellbell]

Hey there,

 

Well, if things have been this bad and it has only been a few months, then I do not see things getting any better. Relationships should not be this hard in the very beginning, actually, it is the most fun, uplifting, butterfly-feeling time.

 

You cannot be perfect, no one is. And if she expects that, then she is off her rocker. Perhaps it is time to take a break from dating for awhile and get yourself back on track. The last girl you dated sounded she was full drama and put you through a lot. Time to treat yourself right and start feeling good about yourself again. If you don't, you will continue to attract girls whom treat you like dirt.

[BigSyke]

honestly, from what it sounds like, her EX was perfect, but he moved or something. I guess tonight while i was in an epic struggle to keep her on the phone, using my sales pitch tactics and foreinsics, she said crying "i deserve somebody perfect, why couldn't you just be perfect"

 

I told her nobody is perfect, and she said "yes, one guy is...bla bla bla my ex bla bla bla....i gotta go" click.

 

So yea i dunno. So far i have had everybody convince her including my parents that I am not talking to my EX. and that my EX is just trying to break us up. She still doesnt accept it. Such a shame.......

 

I tried to bust out NC on saturday, but it worked in her favor i guess, she met like 30 dudes......i dunno i have to pick up the strength and let another one go.

 

However I did absolutely NOTHING wrong in this relationship, i dont understand. She would just believe my ex over me all the time. EVen when i had my phone statements right in front of her.

 

 

And when i say nothing wrong, means, I seriously worshiped this woman, literally I agreed with anything she said, even if it WAS wrong. If she needed anything, i would drop what i was doing and be over there within 10 minutes. I would never question her, doubt her, seriously the "hollywood" type model boyfriend....

 

Most girls would KILL for a guy like that.

[kellbell]

"And when i say nothing wrong, means, I seriously worshiped this woman, literally I agreed with anything she said, even if it WAS wrong. If she needed anything, i would drop what i was doing and be over there within 10 minutes. I would never question her, doubt her, seriously the "hollywood" type model boyfriend....

 

Most girls would KILL for a guy like that."

 

From what you described here, you were a pushover. A person with no backbone and let her walk all over you. No one respects a pushoever, she did not respect you. You let her cross all your boundries so you can be "perfect" like her ex. Absolute nonsense. She is out her mind. I would leave her be and be on your own for awhile.

 

Perhaps take a step back and reflect as to why you attract women with problems, that are drama queens. You have to concentrate on the common demonitator and that is you. There are some aspects you need to adjust and change. Take some time to be on your own for bit.

[Iceman26]

I guess last night my girlfriend broke up with me and didnt tell me. She ended up hooking up with a few guys. Shes really a good girl.

 

Are you serious? She's not a good girl. She cheated on you man, plain and simple. This girl has some serious, serious issues.

 

Your first problem is worshipping her. Treat a girl you care for well and chivalrously but don't worship her or else you will keep ending up with these princess types.

 

Be yourself with women, don't try to be their ideal. In the long run that won't make you happy.

[BigSyke]

well we worked things out, sorta....

 

Today is v-day, and for some reason she is busy? how is this? we planned something. Now she is going to a movie till late late. She is ignoring my calls. And she said her dad gets back in town sunday....hmmm

 

she also joked around saying i could have sex with who ever i wanted, because she was doing that.....and I kept asking "are you serious?" * * *B?

 

she finally said oh im just kidding......connection? shes only 18, i usually date 24+

[Rabican]

Two things. One, you were being a doormat. No girl wants a guy who agrees when she says wow its really raining out and you look outside and its 72` and sunny, not a cloud in the sky and you say... wow babe sure is pouring! Be a man for F sake.

 

Second thing, you shouldnt be with a girl who doesnt trust you at all. Its one thing if you are giving her a reason not to. But if you arent... you should find someone else.

 

Third thing... actually, if she hooked up with some other guys the night she broke it off with you... thats not good.