Valentines day is hard. Still remember my ex.

[Silentlyfor]

Valentines day is reminding so much of the love I used to have for my ex. Now, I feel miserable. I want to contact her and just talk to her, but after 8 months of NC I don't want to concede to her.

 

I don't know why, but after so long, I miss her. It's so painful. And learning that she's living with her current finance is not helping me(I didn't find out myself. My 'best friend' told me arbitrarily.)

 

I don't like dealing with this, but I don't even want to THINK of contacting my ex. Especially after the relationship that we had in which I was emtionally abused. What should I do?

[skyjuice]

Hi

 

My suggestion is do nothing.

[SkylinesTurnstiles]

If you feel that bad then just remember that Valentines day is just a halmark holiday to show your loved ones you love them, So by saying that do they think we dont show them we love them enough through-out the year?

[iceman85]

Write her a letter expressing everything you have on your mind.

 

 

Then post it here.

[Pegasus]

Valentines day is reminding so much of the love I used to have for my ex. Now, I feel miserable. I want to contact her and just talk to her, but after 8 months of NC I don't want to concede to her.

 

I don't know why, but after so long, I miss her. It's so painful. And learning that she's living with her current finance is not helping me(I didn't find out myself. My 'best friend' told me arbitrarily.)QUOTE]

 

Hi Redmage22,

 

your story is so similar to mine that I thought I posted it before under other ID and than forgot about it .

 

I think I won't do anything on Valentines day - absolutely nothing - I will be at work - go swimming after and at the evening having a few drinks (normally I don't drink almost never).

 

Okie

[Hubbys_glitter_is_gold]

well it couldve been worse.. I stopped celebrating v-day because one v-day about 4 years ago, Feb. Friday 13th, i found out that i was being dumpped by my b/f of almost a year for my 1st cousin, and he was spending v-day with her and that sunday made 2 weeks that they had been seeing each other. So like i said, It couldve been worse.

[Orlander]

Valentine's Day is difficult for everyone who doesnt have a significant other. There are many things you can do to avoid being alone if that is your desire.

 

I just did a speed dating thing on Friday and it was a blast. Scared me out of my mind before I went, but by the time I got there I wasn't scared anymore and really had a good time.

 

Most decent sized cities have social events for singles scheduled on Valentine's Day. My suggestion is to go to one. You never know what you might find or how much of a good time you might have.

 

Be with friends.

Be with family.

Take a risk.

 

Whatever you do, don't wallow in your own lonliness that day. It's ok to be alone if you want, but dont allow yourself to be depressed.

 

 

Orlander

[Me and myself]

Valentine's Day is difficult for everyone who doesnt have a significant other.

 

This is so true!

I have secret hopes that I get some msg from my ex on Valentine's Day, and I don't want to feel any hopes about it....hopes are the root of how bad I'm feeling.

[SkylinesTurnstiles]

You dont need some guy or girl to be happy on valentines day.

 

Do what Orlander said and hang with friends and family,

Go to single bars or something