singingnotflying Posted February 10, 2007 Share Posted February 10, 2007 My "husband" (I call him such, but we're not technically married) is a real go-getter, hardcore. He's going down to basically tell this woman who owns a local coffee shop/restaurant/bar why she needs him to be her general manager. The problem with this in our relationship is he'll never be around. The store's open-hours are from 8 am to 2 pm. He hasn't discussed with me if this is okay. He just assumes it is. And I'm too chicken to bring it up because I don't want to rain on his parade. He's working very hard to get his life together (he's a non-drinking alcoholic & also recently quit smoking weed because of some court stuff), and he's doing it both for himself & for our family unit (we have a nine-month-old son). He's the type of guy who hasn't been around very much for this reason or that. When we were first dating, I thought it was cute that he was the "mayor of this town"... i.e., so popular & friendly that he might as well have been. But now, that is both physically taking him away from his family, plus I have been taking care of the baby virtually all by myself, and I hardly get time to myself at all. All these months, he's convinced me that his "work" is networking, mingling, talking to people... at coffee shops, bars, what-have-you. And so this new move is just like an extension of that, to the extreme. He says he'll make time for us & make time for me if I need to do things on my own, but already this week, he's said he has to "fit (me) into (his) schedule", which is insulting enough... but I've also had to put off for several days or a week things that I need to do for my own well-being (such as get to meetings). He's got so much going on for him, and I stay at home with the baby until I can be "fit in." And to add to the reasons for me to feel jealousy, we were on the phone last night while he was driving, and he told me that some teenage girls were waving at him from their vehicle. He said "Well, don't be jealous, because I can have the world in my palm" & something-or-other how that relates to being a successful community & business man. Now, of course I care if he's successful & feels good about himself. And maybe I do take my jealousy a bit far. And it was half my decision to have a baby in the first place. But doesn't it seem there is something askew in all of this? So I keep my mouth shut about my dislike of his life decisions so it seems I'm supportive, but he knows I'm being passive-aggressive too. Anyway, thanks for reading this long-winded paragraph. It's mostly a rant, but if you have any suggestions to throw at me, that'd be great. Quote Link to comment
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