He Contacted Me Today..but I Feel Rejected And Hurt

[NSY991]

The guy I have been "seeing" sent me a short email today...after telling me last night he wasn't ready to "talk" to me,....because of some negativity last week.You all can find my previous posts....His email was short...."Hey, hope you're having a better day today. Just thinking of you. be happy!!!'

 

My father had a heart attack and passed away last week. last night I REALLY needed someone to talk to..and he said he couldn't..and truthfully right now I am a bit pissed...and hurt, because regardless of what happened last week, I would be there for HIM no matter what.

 

So.....should I even BOTHER replying or wait till I am LESS upset?

[Jeffrey2095]

I am so sorry to hear about your father and the troubles you are having NSY

 

My father passed away when I was 22... Really, I have not gotten over it... I have just learned to live with it somehow.

 

Your boyfriend, unfortunately seems to be distancing himself from you, sorry.

 

Why don't you stay right here at ENA, and I bet you will find a great deal of comfort and advice and friends. There are so many folks here who can offer support.

 

And, a great place just to talk sometimes.

 

Gee, I'm just a baby here really, but I feel for you, and it sounds like your boyfriend is not going to provide any support... sorry.

 

Hang out here, because there are always people to talk to that really care about you and your life...OK.

 

Stay in touch and best wishes.

 

Jeff

[DN]

I understand that you are hurt and upset - but we are talking a matter of only hours before he contacted you. Perhaps give him the benefit of the doubt this time? He may have over-reacted and could have been more supportive but he does seem to be trying now.

[Bethany]

I agree with DN.

 

I also think that when your in mourning especially after such a short amount of time, things do seem more hurtful, feelings are exaggerated and understandably so, so the best thing I recommend for you right now is to know that he was thinking of you, has been through what you are going through right now and he really does understandwhat you are going through, and it is early days in the 'relationship' so maybe it is wise to have some time to both deal with things apart..

 

Maybe for him, its brought back a lot of memories and feelings about his own father too and he needs some time for himself.

 

Time is the answer here I feel.

[Altruist]

Give him the benefit of the doubt. He had no way of knowing that you father had died (I am sorry about that). If he had known what you were going through, I am sure he would have been there for you.