First Meeting Interrogations

[txblues]

How do you prevent a first date or in my case a first internet chat from turning into a game of twenty questions? I tend to be the quiet, introverted type, and it seems this is the way my conversation goes. some girls it bothers. Preplanned jokes? funny stories. anticipate questions before hand and plan for them? or just i'll get better with more experience. looking back i'm kicking myself for not answering some questions better than one or two word answers.

[annie24]

an activity date might be a good way to go. something like an art exhbit or some kind of festival or free concert in the park, where you can comment on your surroundings as opposed to having to answer 50 questions about yourself.

[robowarrior]

Give a swing to the conversation on what you would like to do, that way you can change the topic.

[ImThatGirl]

I agree an activity date may be more comfy for you. Go bowling, Ice Skating, A long walk, anything active!

 

Sitting at dinner with someone you're meeting for the first time can be very intimidating. Yes, you can eat but really - it can feel like you are being put on the spot. If you decide to do something fun and active, the small talk comes easily (or at least more easily than dinner!)

 

Another thing - Don't put so much weight into all your answers. Yes, you want to reflect your true character but there's no perfect answer to those questions! Make sure you ask questions too like: Your answer and then, what about you? Have ideas of questions you'd like to ask too. Dating is about getting to know each other. It's not a chance to win a million dollars. It's about determining if you enjoy the other persons character and personality. If you don't (or they don't,) it's not the end of the world, right? Have some fun with it!

 

On a sidenote. I went to lunch with a guy about 10 yrs my senior once. He talked the whole lunch. Asked lots of questions and then told about himself. I'm positive he was very interested. But the fact that I felt like I was being interviewed and that he didn't touch his meal (had to take it home due to talking too much,) completely bothered me!

[Belgian girl]

being yourself, letting the other feel him-/herself, relax or enjoy that moment, use some humor, don't be to serious but also not the opposite, talk (also) about topics the other is interested in, find common interests, use bodylanguage / explain by using your body