is it wrong to be jealous?

[Blackhawk2009]

Is it wrong to be jealous of guys who hang out with a girl you like? When she doesnt seem to like you the way you like her, beyond friendship?

[GuitarHero]

Yes. If she has made it clear she is not into you in that way, she has a right to hang out with whoever she wants.

[Daligal83]

You can't help your feelings. If you're jealous, you're jealous. It makes sense since you still have feelings for her even if she doesn't return them. It's not OK to act on that jealousy though because of what the above poster said.

[friscodj]

You can't control how you feel but you can control how you deal with them and your actions related to such. So in the sense of the feelings of jealousy existing, it's not right or wrong, it just is. What you do about it and how you react to it could be considered right or wrong I guess.

 

In your case here, it's not abnormal to feel some degree of jealousy. My advice to you is act on your feelings of attraction and not the feelings jealousy by pursuing a relationship with her. You need a firm answer either way for the sake of your sanity and emotional freedom I think. If she reciprocates, wonderful! If not, maybe take a step back and let all your feelings for her, attraction, jealousy, and likely other related feelings as well, subside so you can have a true friendship with her not poisoned by these negative feelings.

[Jeffrey2095]

Hello Blackhawk,

 

Yeah, I'd say so...

 

Also sounds like kind of a bummer too.

 

Hopefully you will be able to accept things the way they are.

 

Or... maybe someone you like even better will come along...

 

Good luck and best wishes.

 

Jeff

[Blackhawk2009]

thanks guys/girls for help with this situation. I dont know for sure that she doesnt like me as more than a friend but i can kind of tell so i get jealous when she goes to parties with guys and stuff

[friscodj]

It's time to start being more direct and getting your answer here regarding her feelings either way before you go crazy...

[Northalius]

Is it wrong to be jealous of guys who hang out with a girl you like? When she doesnt seem to like you the way you like her, beyond friendship?

 

Wrong? Maybe for the health of your mind, if you let it constantly become a huge issue for you.

 

If you know she's not interested, yet you're still jealous, then this is just a sign of selfishness. You've got to have respect for her decision. Picture yourself in her shoes. Now, imagine there was a girl that was jealous of you going out all the time with a bunch of girls, and you weren't interested in her; wouldn't you feel disrespected?

 

So, all you can do is: 1) ask her to go out with you and see for sure if she's not interested; 2) begin with taking steps to forget about her, move on, and look elsewhere for a girl that'll want to be with you, instead of a party girl that probably isn't your type to begin with.

[Blackhawk2009]

yea i guess your right