tell me what he's thinking, PLEASE

[Lost1n7heDark]

I like this boy, and this boy likes me. I know it, it's obvious, he's told me, and he asked me on a date for this weekend.

He's been so sweet to me, and is really a hardworking, genuine guy.

But last night, he got some news that he might have to be working all weekend, so he was really in a bad mood.

But then he started being a complete {mod edit} to me on aim, and just signed off after saying the meanest things.

I was really hurt and just completely taken by surprise, because I never thought he'd say those things.

 

I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt by hoping he was just really having a horrible day. But I know if he doesn't talk to me tonight, tomorrow's date probably wont be happening.

I really don't understand what he's thinking.

 

Will you guys tell me what you think about this? What should I do?

 

Thanks.

[Straightj06]

i have days like this all the time, mood swings etc. And i admit it i was a {mod edit} to my ex and thats probably what made me lose her. But we learn from our mistakes right?

 

I didnt i still do it now and sometimes i dont even notice, all i wanted was time alone to cool down and somebody to talk to, kind of contridicts itself but when he feels ready he should contact you. If not hes not worth the hassle if hes not going to think about what his behaviour is doing to you. Hope this helps ?

[Scout]

Do you mind giving some details on what he specifically said? Do you remember?

[friscodj]

Hey LD-

 

Well, my guess is that he really likes you, had his hopes up to spend time with you this weekend, then the boss called and he subsequently got really disappointed.

 

You mention he is hardworking which also leads me to believe he might be overworking and feeling some residual feelings associated with that, his job and/or boss too.

 

At any rate, this gives him no excuse or otherwise valid reason to put you down. The question is whether or not this is an isolated incident tied to other deeper issues not related to you he isn't telling you about or if this is an indication of his personality, character, and as such, what to expect from him in the future.

 

Only time, your perspective, and your judgment will tell the answer to that. I'd probably inquire about his behavior here and see what he says. If there is benefit of the doubt to give, I'd give it to him in this one instance but make sure he knows how it made you feel. Then keep an eye on this pattern in the future. Don't necessarily focus on it too much and lose perspective of enjoying your time together, but keep an eye on it.

[annie24]

Is it possible it was someone else typing those comments to you? like a sibling or a friend, playing a joke? I think you should just ask him (on the phone or in person) and be like, "hey - what was with those things you said at the end of our conversation?"

[Goblin]

Hi Lost the guy you like sounds abit like me! haha

 

Anyways, im not him but i can relate to him. I did it unintentionally to my gf several times but now are more aware to watch my words and treat her better. There were many times when I said I would meet up with her but at times I get caught up at work and late to see her. Like you she was okay with it, but I was not! I really wanted to see her so I got mad at work and sound upset but I had no intentions of hurting her.

 

This guy likes you and getting upset he cant see you coz of the situation proves ald he really wants to see you. Its just his nature he reacts that way. He knows his work is more important. That ald tells you he knows his priorities and dedication and he does what needs to be done. Only flaw he reacted negatively.

 

DO NOT confront him asking him whats up with that. That will pressure him more and push him away from you. Let some time for him to cool down and eventually he will contact you. It is ok to contact him but be nice and be concerned and tell him it hurts you hearing him saying all that. Im sure with his 'committed nature' he will mature and avoid repeating the mistake.

 

Well if tomorrows date doesnt happen, theres always other days! I postponed my first date too coz of work!

 

Good luck!