Hate being alone

[Jetta]

So my mom has a boyfriend now, sort of. She met up with a guy from link removed and well he's obviously interested, not totally sure how she feels but he's planning to see her often. I told her he thought she was beautiful. He had his brother call her even. Old people move fast.

 

I wish I could get a boyfriend but I'm not in a good place right now and who wants that? I'm joined link removed because some guy e-mailed me and I was curious. He was black. I had joined for about following my divorce and opted out, unhid my profile then brought it back and now nothing! Why do I attract black guys so often? My first ex was black, my 2nd was white and well I'd kind of like to stick with white guys. Even at work the black guys are friendlier with me.

 

You know I feel fine most of the time until I realize how crappy my life really is, oh yeah I live in denial is what the social workers used to say. Um reality hit and well I couldn't handle it so denial is best. Honestly I'm not looking to get married right now, okay a part of me would like to. LOL But really why over 100 views and not even 1 wink!? I've winked at guys, no response, at least say not interested (it's nicer).

 

Okay I'm going to share my intro so you can tell me what vibe I'm giving off.

 

I went roadtripping alone and realized life is more fun when you have someone to share it with.

 

I enjoy singing along to the radio, driving a little too fast, swimming, watching movies, dining, etc... I'm on the quietside and am generally a peaceful person.

 

I enjoy planning life goals, home projects, that kind of thing. I'm willing to try new things but skydiving isn't on my to do list. I'm sarcastic and people never seem to get when I'm joking. I'm also honest and musically inclined.

 

A few qualities I'm looking for in a mate are: tidy, intelligent, knowledgeable, honest, reliable, and somewhat outgoing.

 

BTW my name is **** and I'm hoping for a match.

I should mention I change my profile regularly. This is my latest version. Come on why no winks? Yeah I know I'm not totally ready but I want some interest.

[Beec]

Well to tell you the truth, there is not much personality coming through in what you wrote. I know you are not "up" these days, but flat is not going to attract.

[Jetta]

Thanks for your honesty. I don't think I ever have much personality, I'm more animated (facial expressions, actions). Often considered too serious. Guess I better come up with a way to show more of my fun side. Any suggestions?

[Beec]

When I was dating one line, my headline was a joke. It was a sales pick, but a ridiculous one. I touted my lack of felony convictions and the fact that I had more teeth than one number of fingers one would normally expect to see on a hand. And then I highlighted that this model came with many other features, such as ____. And then I admitted to be making light of the very idea I was giving a sales pitch. So give an unexpected headline, not some platitude.

 

Write about things tha tinterest you and seem to in opposition. Say you are a woman who camps out a lot, and knows exactly what the proper distance from a body of water is for the burying of your poop, but you also enjoy dressing up to go to the opera. This two interests don't seem to fit together, so putting them both in you makes you seem like a puzzle that someone will want to solve.

 

Two suggestions.

[shes2smart]

I've seen some of the other threads you've started in the last few days.

 

What I'm wondering is...with all the other things you have going on, do you realistically have time to find/build/maintain a healthy relationship at this point? Even just casual dating takes time and effort. Is it possible that this is just serving as a distraction from some of the more pressing issues you have going on?

 

Finally, while you may be a perfectly lovely person, you DO have a lot of "stuff" going on right now. When I was single and dating, I tended to pass on getting involved with people who had a lot of "stuff" going on. It's one thing to deal with crap when you're already in an established relationship with someone...I'd expect no less from myself or an SO. But it's a different matter entirely when one is in the "just dating" stages. Why deal with someone else's (and someone you barely know at that) drama if your own life is relatively problem-free, y'know?

[Jetta]

Shes2smart - That is exactly why I said I'm not truly ready. I started the profile out of curiosity originally. I reregistered because someone e-mailed me. Now that I have a membership for a few more months I'm going to make the most of it, while getting my life in order.

 

Fact is most of what I've been through has already happened. Emotionally I'm healing still and gaining clairity. Truth is I'm never going to be at that perfect place I want to be at, years maybe never, so I just have to continue life the best I can and if I meet someone great.