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Hi Diana,

 

What can anyone say. That is a tough situation and whilst I think his method of ending the relationship was cowardly, I guess no matter how it was done you would still be hurting.

 

I think you should move forward with your divorce as soon as possible. It will give you a sense of achieving something and moving on.

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Hello TiredMan,

 

I was legally separated, as was he when we began our relationship. His divorce was final just a year and half ago. He did understand the financial reason why I needed to remain legally separated as he is a CPA and understands vesting schedules on stock options. The piece of paper did not stop me from giving him everything else...it only prevented a legal union for us for a period of time.

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I know it hurts. I have been with the same person for even longer and I have been through a "break up" patch as well. At the same time, isn't this a blessing since he was constantly cheating on you? I mean unless you were cheating as well, no one deserves to be lied to and cheated on.

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I am sorry to read your post. I am feeling a bit of that familiar naseau coming over me after my last breakup. I wish there were somthing that I could do for you -I know it hurts. If you need to talk you can send me an email..

 

Blessings

 

Bri

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Could be the age thing. Could be they connected. Could be the sex. Could be the relationship they have. Could be so many things.

 

If she is a user, are you sure he isn't one as well?

 

If you didn't cheat then you don't deserve to be cheated on. I know it's hard now but you dno't want to be around that type of person. It will only hurt you more later on. You don't need that.

 

If you need to talk, talk with friends, talk with family, post on here, email/pm people, or even a therapist if you have to. Do whatever you need to do to get through but you will see it's better you are without a guy who cheats on you like that.

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My sister and my father suffer from heart palpatations and I don't really know what caused it for them.

 

I know how hard it is to end a long term relationship. Mine was 13.5 years and when she no longer needed me, WHAM!

 

So, that being said, of course you still love him. You got blindsided. The beauty of this is, that you WILL wake up one day and think, "what the HELL!!??" This guy didn't even want to be there for me AND he CHEATED!!"

 

Cheating is CRAP and should not be tolerated. The more I think about it, the more I am glad that I am not dealing with my ex cheating with her emotions (at least that is what I am telling myself)

 

Look, who needs that. You are lonely and that is what we are here for. I lived with my ex for most of my adult life. I miss her like crazy. She was my friend. BUT SHE NEVER GAVE ME WHAT I WANTED MOST!!! HER HEART!!

 

You did not have his. What, did he need an excuse to cheat?

 

Hang in there girlie and keep posting...

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Thank you all for listening.....it is a comfort. So much of me has taken a "hit"..my heart, my emotions, my self esteem, my faith in love......

 

It is hard at age 47 to lose the one you love (he is 42) to a 28 year old addict married person. I am trying to believe that he has issues versus there being something wrong with me. I know I gave him true and genuine love....what he gave back was something entirely different. I guess I can hold my head high knowing what I gave was real, on the other hand I don't know how he puts his head down on the pillow and sleeps at night.

 

I have not contacted him since 12/26 at which time I requested my valuable items to be sent back to me. On this list, he sent everything but 3 items. He has kept my video camera and the tapes I made of our family time and vacations together, my bicycle, and a wireless router. He also did not return my perfumes...Why? I have not asked for every single thing I bought for our "life" together...in fact he has thousands of dollars worth of things in his home I paid for that I have not requested back. Why would he not honor at least the list of things I did ask for?

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I was concerned about his wine consumption while I was with him. Not being more than a social drinker, I was not knowledgable if drinking 3 to 4 bottles of wine (himself) a week was excessive or not. This was fairly consistent throughout the relationship. If I did not have any wine, he would drink the entire bottle himself that evening and if I did drink some often times 2 bottles would be consumed, with him drinking 95% of it. I was not aware of any drug use. I have never done drugs, and he did while in college. He often mentioned he'd rather smoke pot than drink alcohol but would not risk his career getting caught with it. So...maybe they had this in common? I don't know what her addiction is. I believe it is either alcohol or drug related. If he was doing any kind of drug it was completely hidden from me.

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