help!

[confused273]

so i got out of an abusive relationship with my ex this past september. he has tried numerous times to get back in contact with me via the internet...everytime he makes up a new fake myspace or a new screen name i just block him...having already told him i dont want any contact with him....well just now he somehow got my private email addy and is telling me hes coming to my town and the town that my mother lives in this weekend on his way to work in NY(he lives in NY!)...he also says he still has my adresses in CT(where i am now) and i dont know what to do! why does he need to come to CT to just go back to NY where his job is..also where he lives? what should i do? should i call the cops? should i just wait it out? i am also pregnant with his child...but he will not be in this baby's life....ahh im freaking out here!

[Meow18]

Are you responding to any of these messages? If so, then you need to stop. He's getting his way everytime he gets you to talk to him somehow.

 

Do you think you will be in danger? Do you know exactly when he is planning on coming through your town?

[confused273]

no i do not respond to his messages...in the beginning i did...just to tell him to stop contacting me. i have not responded to any of his emails for a while now. im not really sure what he would do if he came to my house. he just said that hes coming through this weekend...im so floored right now....i seriously never thught he would do this...i always thought he was too lazy and self centered to even try...

[Meow18]

That's kind of scary. If this guy was abusive to you in the past, who knows what he might do now.

 

Would it be possible to stay with a friend this weekend, or maybe have somebody around with you over the weekend just in case?

 

If he does happen to stop by, I would call the cops for sure. He has no business being at your house.

[confused273]

luckily i live with a roomate...she works for the police department so i think i will be ok...but just knowing hes coming here im scared....my boyfriend will also be here with me all weekend as its my birthday this weekend(perfect timing eh?) so there will def be people around....but if he does it this time whats stopping him from doing it again...and the next time unannounced? i will be watching for him and if he does come here the cops will be called....uggg im just so freaked out! thank you so much for replying..makes me feel a little better

[Dako]

I'd go to the police, just to go on the record and to find what steps you can take to minimize your fear. The sooner you make this a matter of record, the better, especially if it becomes a long-term problem.

Contacting or complaining to him just gives him power over you.

Abusers love attention, but not from the law.

 

He can be restrained from bothering you if a pattern is established.

 

Please don't let this go on.

[Scout]

I'd go to the police, just to go on the record and to find what steps you can take to minimize your fear. The sooner you make this a matter of record, the better, especially if it becomes a long-term problem.

Contacting or complaining to him just gives him power over you.

Abusers love attention, but not from the law.

 

He can be restrained from bothering you if a pattern is established.

 

Please don't let this go on.

 

I fervently second every word of this advice.

[confused273]

thanks for all the advice..im going to go to the police station this morning and give them any info i have..im also going to see if i can find a pic of him on the internet to give them just in case..again thank you so much. i am also thinking of getting a lawyer so i can find out what his parental rights are to my baby...i was told that just because he has abused me doesnt mean he cant see his kid..unless he abuses my baby too

[arwen]

Hey girl, I think that it's vital that you inform the police. Please make solid arrangements about his rights about the baby- is there anyone helping you with the eventual paperworks (will he sign for the baby as a dad, etc. )?

 

Arwen