new lingerie?

[Daligal83]

So here's a question for everyone out there. When you start a new relationship, what do you do with your lingerie from your old one? Is it weird to use it again? Should you buy new stuff and get rid of the old?

[EvaGina]

lol

I cant afford to get new undies on a whim

I do sometimes feel odd about it, but I dont tell them another man has seen me in it

[anggrace]

uhmm, yep, Ive had to think of that too. I still use it. If he said he didn't like the idea, Id get rid of it. But I don't think he even thinks of that when Im wearing it.

[Dako]

As a guy, I wouldn't care as long as it's clean.

After all, the contents of the wrapper aren't brand-new either.

[caro33]

Why would you replace your lingerie? Is it because your ex bought it all for you?

 

I have always bought my own, and I swear it is such a hassle finding stuff that fits me that no way does its lifespan depend on anything other than becoming threadbare. I went to buy a new bra the other day and there was one in my size accross all the nicer brands accross the entire department store.

 

I might buy a couple of new things for the new relationship - just to feel "new" - but nothing major.

[Scotcha]

I don't replace my underwear but I do replace my bed sheets!

[Daligal83]

Well I've worn some of it with my boyfriend and he never said anything about it. But over the weekend he mentioned a toy he had used with a previous girlfriend that he had gotten rid of. I asked why he didn't keep it to use again and he said that it would be weird to use it with another girl. That got me thinking that maybe it's weird for him to have me wearing lingerie that I used with another guy.

 

haha, caro I completely understand. I'm the type of girl that can't find a bra small enough for me even in a specialty shop! It's really a problem when it comes to wearing clothes that need more than the ordinary bra. Plus then I don't have any nice bras really because I don't see the point in spending all that money on something that doesn't even really fit me anyway.

[Mythical_Suicide]

A toy and lingerie are two different things IMO, Im not going to throw out all of my stuff just because I get into a new relationship that would get extremely expensive for some people ya know

[caro33]

Yeah I see a real difference between a toy and lingerie. The thought of using a sex toy used by my partner on his ex just makes me shudder. WHERE has it BEEN? Yeugh.

 

It's not like the lingerie you are using was worn by your ex was it? It was probably just taken OFF you BY the ex.

 

Not the same thing!

[Aurian]

I kinda felt skeeved at the idea myself... I kept my underwear, but the night-wear I bought to wear for him? I threw those out when the relationship ended and went back to my comfy but unsexy pjs

 

When I am in a relationship when he might see me at bedtime, then I'll get something new

[need2bme]

I don't replace my underwear but I do replace my bed sheets!

 

CLASSIC!

 

Actually, my bed still smells like her perfume and it is driving me insane. I need to Febreeze it or something!

[EvaGina]

Actually, my bed still smells like her perfume and it is driving me insane. I need to Febreeze it or something!

 

oh god that drives me insane...

[Daligal83]

I see what you mean by a toy and lingerie being different. Just to clarify though...the toy we were talking about was handcuffs...so it wasn't anything too actively used I guess you would say. I don't know if that makes a difference to anyone though.

[caro33]

I see what you mean by a toy and lingerie being different. Just to clarify though...the toy we were talking about was handcuffs...so it wasn't anything too actively used I guess you would say. I don't know if that makes a difference to anyone though.

 

Okay handcuffs are different then . Makes a difference to me from the yucky perspective, but I can still see why it's not somewhere you want to go. Better to start fresh.

[Daligal83]

So I shouldn't just assume that because he didn't keep those, that he would be grossed out by my wearing my old lingerie?

 

That's good cause I'm cheap and poor hahaha

[caro33]

I think he probably hasn't thought about it, and it's all fine anyway.

 

As long as he gets to be the one to take it off you, he's probably happy .

[Daligal83]

Hahah good point Thanks for the help!

[need2bme]

oh god that drives me insane...

 

Does your bed smell like her too?

 

Actually, how did you get rid of the smell of his cologne?

[EvaGina]

Does your bed smell like her too?

 

Actually, how did you get rid of the smell of his cologne?

 

LOL

I wash my sheets....

but I dont like to.. I like being able to smell him... the new one, anyways

 

acutally, I LOVED how my ex smelt, seeing as I bought him my favourite manfume...

[Mythical_Suicide]

I'd replace handcuffs as well but not lingerie, if that makes any sense? I dont know I guess to me I just see the two as totally different things. If my current bf and I split up i'd probably keep the handcuffs I have now but just wouldnt use them with my new partner. The only way i'd replace the lingerie is if the guy bought it for me but in my case i've bought all mine.

[zerohalo]

The only way i'd replace the lingerie is if the guy bought it for me but in my case i've bought all mine.

 

I think that makes the most sense.

 

You know I've never even thought about this topic until now, I'm not sure how I feel about it. I think it wouldn't bother me because the person she'd be wearing it for would be me, not her ex.

 

Ok, I need to stop thinking about this cause it's taking my mind to a naughty place.

[need2bme]

Yeah, it really wouldn't bother me. I am not gonna throw out all of my underwear. Do you guys know how much underwear costs these days?

[need2bme]

Oh and btw, I almost had to beg my ex (after the beginning of the relatioship) to wear something sexy. OK, maybe I should not have asked all the time.

 

So, if the next GF has stuff she wore for the ex, I wouldn't even care, as long as she would wear it for me and wear it often. ;-)

[Mythical_Suicide]

Yeah, it really wouldn't bother me. I am not gonna throw out all of my underwear. Do you guys know how much underwear costs these days?

 

 

Exactly, LOL Underwear is VERY expensive especially the nice stuff.

 

I see it this way, I dont ask my bf to throw out all of his boxers that his ex's saw him in (and possibly done more in but I try not thinking of that aspect.. ew) so why would he expect me to throw mine out? Given it is sexier but still?!

[Rabican]

why would it be weird to wear it again? UNless you have video tape of you + your ex wearing that black teddy that your boyfriend loves... I dont think you are going to have any problems.