How to proceed??

[Figaro]

I'm a fairly shy lad, limited experience with approaching girls, yada yada yada... The same old story.

 

Anyway I met this girl in college in the months before christmas, we worked on a group project together, it was groups of four. Anyway when we worked on the project we'd be pretty chatty, although I'm quite shy I'm known for my witty sense of humour, now I'm no expert, it felt like flirting but I couldn't really tell for certain, she seemed to smile a lot etc.

 

Now I really like her and all and I came close to asking her if she had similar feelings before the christmas break but I let it pass as she was heading back to France that very day and we wouldn't see each other for at least a month.

 

I kept in touch with her over the break and then over the exams. Now college has started back fully and I was planning on asking her this time, and now it turns out that the group project for this semester will use the same teams from last semester. This is all well and good I can definitely ask her now.

 

But this brings up all kinds of stuff, like if she does like me and we go out, I can't really see this having any impact on us working on a project together. Y/N? And then on the flip side if she says she's not interested, would working together be awkward when she knows that I like her, I don't know if this would create tension in the group or something.

 

Overall, I know I like her and I think she knows this by now, it's pretty obvious at this stage imo. So I'm thinking screw it, ask her, take the plunge, no point in letting college work dictate how I go about it. Y/N?

[Day_Walker]

Instead of planning out all of this stuff and making assumptions, get her phone number and ask her out.

[chai714]

screw it, ask her, take the plunge, no point in letting college work dictate how I go about it. Y/N?

 

Y .

[Figaro]

While calling her up might be ok, I was think asking her face to face would be the best way, but both ways have their pros and cons.

[chai714]

Do this face to face. Also, pay attention to her body langauge throughout. Like Day_Walker advised, get her number (if you don't already have it) and suggest that you two hang out. Suggest, not ask.

 

Example of suggesting vs. asking:

 

Suggestion: Let's hang out this weekend

 

Asking: Will you go out with me this weekend?

 

One is confident, the other is seeking approval.

[BlueDude]

Yea, I'm pretty much with them. Just ask her for her number and suggest, meeting sometime. See how things go and everything.

 

Depending on yalls relationships it may or may not change the project. I'm good friends with all my ex-gf's but some people it may make it awkward. But if yall are both mature yall should atleast hopefully be able to go through with the project no matter what happens.

 

So yea, I say go for it. all great things in life come with risks.