We slept together now what?

[Aprilbabe75]

ok....so I met up with this guy I have not seen since childhood. I grew up with his cousins.

 

Anyway, We started hanging out and made friends with each other friends. He drove me home and kissed me a couple of times, but never could be bothered outside the bar scene, but chat here and there with my effort I feel.

 

His friend told me that he just got out of a 6 year relationship where it was either he worked or was with her. When he wanted to work on his car which was his hobbie she would have a fit. So he is scared and just needs time to be him.

 

Well, the other night his friend told me he was at a bar not too far away so I called him. He came over there and then upon dropping friend off home he called and stopped by. We ended up sleeping together, and he called the next day. This is now day two I have not heard from him.

 

I do not know what to do he explained the same thing to me that his friend did and i understand, but now I do not know if I should lay low to prove I am not his x and maybe he will come out of his shell. Maybe I should jut tell him it was a mistake and should not happen again? Did I loose a friend.

 

Advise please.... I normally do not do things like this. It is killing not knowing how he really feels.

[ShroomzGod]

Well if you slept together you lost a friend. If you want more than lay low and see what happens. When you see him make it seem like your not bothered by it but you do want more.

[blender]

let it go for right now, it is what it is, it does NOT define YOU.. he's in his own life journey right now.. and so are you.. he will call again, do NOT contact him... just wait it out, do something good for yourself today.. breathe.. don't let it "grow inside your own mind" to anything more than a "life experience" that you don't know the out come of just yet.. it's going to be okay, you're going to be okay.. and he will call again.. just give him some space.. and forgive yourself if you are beating yourself about sleeping with him.. learn, grow, wait, trust fate... take a walk, breahte.. your life is WAY BIGGER than this moment of feelings/fears.. it's going to all be okay.... just give him some space..time..get busy with your own life for today..

[Aprilbabe75]

let it go for right now, it is what it is, it does NOT define YOU.. he's in his own life journey right now.. and so are you.. he will call again, do NOT contact him... just wait it out, do something good for yourself today.. breathe.. don't let it "grow inside your own mind" to anything more than a "life experience" that you don't know the out come of just yet.. it's going to be okay, you're going to be okay.. and he will call again.. just give him some space.. and forgive yourself if you are beating yourself about sleeping with him.. learn, grow, wait, trust fate... take a walk, breahte.. your life is WAY BIGGER than this moment of feelings/fears.. it's going to all be okay.... just give him some space..time..get busy with your own life for today..

Blender,

What excellent advice!!! You really make sense. Thanks so much!!!