Is it just me?

[cristalgold]

I have a friend that I'm pretty close to. I like her because she can be sweet at times, but she can be annoying. When we talk, all she does is complain about the same things over and over. It's like she never even comes up for air! If I try to throw my two cents in, she would talk right over me, or pause and continue talking like I never said anything. I shouldn't have to raise my voice to the point of almost yelling to get her attention. That's not me. (I must note in person she's not as bad.)

 

The conversation is usually all about her. She may ask me what I'm doing when we first start a conversation, but besides that it's just her complaining about different aspects of her life. She has acknowledged that I'm a great friend and she feels really fortunate to have me around, but sometimes talking to her brings me down. I know that if I'm having too great of a day, I either ignore the call and call her later, or I don't talk too long. I want to be there for her, but sometimes I just can't at certain moments in time.

 

I've learned to take her in doses because I don't want to get sick of her to the point of no return. I feel like I'm a rock for everyone else, but who's truly there for me? Anybody out there ever feel this way?

[TheRedQueen]

Wow babe, story of my life...sad story of my life.

[Hope75]

I had a friend like this too.... the kind where you see their name on the caller ID and don't pick up because you don't have the strength to go through it again.

 

I eventually distanced myself from her... but it was really hard. She was a very close friend and for a long time too... and I care about her but I felt like her endless circle of drama was sucking me dry, and I had alot of my own stuff going on too.

 

Friendship is a two way street, and if you aren't getting anything out of it but you are giving alot, it might be time to re-evaluate if this friendship is really benficial to you, of if you are holding onto it for the wrong reasons... (guilt, familiarity. etc.)

[anggrace]

Yup- I think we all know someone like this. I think they are completely clueless to it. Anytime you try to say something about whats going on in your life, it becomes about them, and your just like...here we go again, blah, blah, blah. They talk at you, not with you. Very annoying! But really, I don't think they even realize they do it. So its hard to get mad.

[Jeffrey2095]

Hello Cristalgold,

 

I have a friend like this too.

 

His idea of a conversation is a monologue.

 

He is so self absorbed that I seriously doubt he realizes it.

 

Jeff

[TheRedQueen]

His idea of a conversation is a monologue.

 

He is so self absorbed that I seriously doubt he realizes it.

Priceless description!!!

[cristalgold]

 

His idea of a conversation is a monologue.

 

He is so self absorbed that I seriously doubt he realizes it.

 

Lol! Jeff, that was a very accurate description. Sometimes I feel like I'm sitting in Charlie Brown's classroom. All I hear is "wah wah wah." Staying focused is hard sometimes.

 

anggrace, yes it's so annoying!

 

Hope, I wonder if I'll end up moving on like you did. It is hard because she's not a bad person...and I like her so much but at times it's so hard.

 

I appreciate the responses.