Should I send a vday present?

[smiles21]

Well, I've been seeing this girl for about a month now, and she goes away to school. We met shortly before her winter break was up, and we talk every day or so. It's kind of a weird situation, we aren't "dating", but we talk/text quite a bit, and there are some feelings there.

 

I have her address at college, and we've spoke of sending eachother something but non-chalantly about it. So I'm not sure what to do, or what to send for that matter. Something sweet, that lets her know I'm thinking about her, but nothing too serious, as I'm not sure where this is going.

 

Any ideas?

[annie24]

Small teddy bear + a small box of candies. I think the operative word is small, and not jewlery. don't go overboard.

[run_little_rabbit]

Definitely send something! I like what Annie suggested.

[Beec]

If I were doing this, the two things I would not do is nothing and the second thing I would not do is anything overly demonstrative, i.e. indicating I have big feelings for her, or expensive. However, I might do something that was a little impressive and a little humorous. In this case, I'd go with a couple pounds, maybe as many as five, of conversation hearts. Overloading her with something inexpensive has worked for me when I was in the first stages of a relationship. I found out she liked candy that like conversation hearts was really pure sugar. A week or so later, I sent her a box with 124 pixie sticks and about a pound of Spree. She's still with me a couple years later.

[jengh]

you could send her flowers. since you're not in a relationship, perse, maybe not all roses, but a combination of sunflowers, roses and gerbera daisies (or if you know her favorite flower, do that..those are just mine)

[Day_Walker]

I think you have to know what kind of girl she is because that is going to depend on what should be done in this situation. It is also important to know what her feelings are towards you. It is clear that you are not "dating" and that concerns me as far as you trying to get her something for v day. If you do decide to get her something then you have to go with something small and humorous as was suggested earlier.

[chai714]

Smiles,

 

From reading your post, I got the impression that you haven't kissed her yet. If not, then you need to bust a move on her before giving any gift.

 

I agree with Beec if you must buy her something. I would avoid any declaration of feelings such as flowers but inexpensive candy as suggested by Beec would be better.

[Beec]

From reading your post, I got the impression that you haven't kissed her yet. If not, then you need to bust a move on her before giving any gift.

 

Yes, bust a move.

[Anathema001]

Smiles,

 

From reading your post, I got the impression that you haven't kissed her yet. If not, then you need to bust a move on her before giving any gift.

 

I agree with Beec if you must buy her something. I would avoid any declaration of feelings such as flowers but inexpensive candy as suggested by Beec would be better.

 

no flowers ?

 

I was going to buy a rose for the girl I am dating with ( didnt kissed her yet ) witha small message on it ( like a oneliner ).

 

So u mean this is a very bad idea ?

Lots of people always say u dont have to come over too strong but in my opinion that isnt hard at all

 

what do u think ?

[Beec]

no flowers ?

 

I was going to buy a rose for the girl I am dating with ( didnt kissed her yet ) witha small message on it ( like a oneliner ).

 

So u mean this is a very bad idea ?

Lots of people always say u dont have to come over too strong but in my opinion that isnt hard at all

 

what do u think ?

 

No flowers, not yet.

 

I've never given a gift at all to a woman, with whom I have been romantically involved, until after I kissed her. When I once gave something to a woman I was interested in but with whom nothing had happened, nothing ever happened.

 

No flowers until it's a serious relationship, and you can let her know you have romantic feelings. Keep it light-hearted, if you must give her anything.

[Anathema001]

No flowers, not yet.

 

I've never given a gift at all to a woman, with whom I have been romantically involved, until after I kissed her. When I once gave something to a woman I was interested in but with whom nothing had happened, nothing ever happened.

 

No flowers until it's a serious relationship, and you can let her know you have romantic feelings. Keep it light-hearted, if you must give her anything.

 

 

Any other ideas yet ? something that can show I have a romantic feeling but isnt too strong ? I know that if I choose somethign it will often be to strong because thats the way I am

[HarleyHunny]

I'd suggest a CARD....and leave it at that for now.

[Beec]

Any other ideas yet ? something that can show I have a romantic feeling but isnt too strong ? I know that if I choose somethign it will often be to strong because thats the way I am

 

Yes, a bundle of the cheap conversation hearts with nothing said but "Happy Valentines Day, [Your Name]"

[smiles21]

Thanks all for the advice, and I have kissed her. Several times.

 

She is going to college to be a teacher, I thought a funny childrens book, some candy/gum in a box with a bear would be cute. It's not too over the top, but it shows i still care..

[Beec]

Thanks all for the advice, and I have kissed her. Several times.

 

She is going to college to be a teacher, I thought a funny childrens book, some candy/gum in a box with a bear would be cute. It's not too over the top, but it shows i still care..

 

Get rid of the bear, and I may tell you it's brilliant. A childrens book on Valentines' Day with some inexpensive candy, and a simple note, Happy V-Day hope your future students enjoy this, or something, and you would probably be sitting pretty.

[Altruist]

I'd suggest a CARD....and leave it at that for now.

 

Agreed. You don't want to come accross as 'The Provider' too early in the relationship.