Rings - is it something that you notice

[onewithbooks]

Ok I was thinking about this this morning and I was curious to what you all do/think.

 

Men do you look to see if a woman is wearing a ring on her ring finger on her left hand?

 

Women do you look to see if the man is wearing a ring on his finger on his left hand?

 

In a world where lots of times even married couples dont wear rings, do you look at the hand as an indicator to whether someone is taken?

[vandgsmom]

I dunno what other people do... I am more of a crotch watcher myself,

 

BUT

 

When I have been single I wore a big rock on my right hand and nothing on my left, just to make sure I was advertising the correct thing in case anyone noticed.

[Locke2121]

I do look. Its not so much to see if they're taken or not, but just to know if they're married. Knowing that can be a great way to start a convo. You ask about their family, a topic close to many people's hearts.

[caro33]

Yes, I agree with Locke. I always look, but looking is just like looking at the way they dress, their ways of speaking. It all adds to your evaluation of the person and where they are in life. It helps you to be able to pitch conversations.

[musicguy]

ifi I see a ring on a girls finger I assume she's taken

[EvaGina]

It doesnt even occur to me to look!!

But then again, I am only 23, I dont know many married people socially.

 

I used to wear a ring on my engagement finger, its the only finger a ring feels comfortable on for me.

[RayKay]

My boyfriend says before when he was dating he always did; and I did too because at this age you tend to run accross more and more married persons than when we were much younger.

 

Not everyone wears a ring of course depending on their job, or preferences, or allergies (though one couple I know wears jade rings as he is allergic to metals), but most whom are married do.

 

Not having one does not mean they are not attached or married though! For that, you generally need to ask and hopefully they are honest about it!

[Scout]

I usually look, even though I'm not single anymore. Just out of idle curiosity, really. In fact, I look at both men and women's ring fingers.

[annie24]

I look, but I know that just because a man isn't wearing a ring doesn't mean he's not single or taken. I think it's more common for married men not to wear rings than for married women not to wear rings.

[RayKay]

I usually look, even though I'm not single anymore. Just out of idle curiosity, really. In fact, I look at both men and women's ring fingers.

 

Ha, I do too! I cannot figure out if it is habit or curiosity!

[DN]

I look but just because I am nosy.

[Dako]

I have a strong appreciation for women's hands, and notice the rings, but also know it's not a reliable indicator.

[real2]

When I read the title, I thought dark rings under their eyes

[musicguy]

lol, that's funny

[luvursmile]

I think a lot of men dont look...Ive been hit on at bars & I always have to point out the ring...and its an average sized ring. Then they're like "oops, didnt see that!"

[Caprica]

It's interesting, for as long as I can remember I've worn two rings, one on my right 4th finger (college ring) and another on my left 4th which was a present from my mother. I had a guy friend tell me once that gold rings on the left 4th fingers were like man repellent Can't bring myself to take 'em off though, cause I feel naked without them.

[itsallgrand]

Yeah, usually once a man starts flirting or being extra friendly I check for the ring....and what do you know, according to my little experiment, if he's hot and flirting as anything >>>>he's married!

[laboheme]

It's very rare for me to specifically look for a ring on someone's finger...I've only consciously done it a handful of times. Usually when I do look, it's not to find out whether or not that particular man is taken, but to see how many men wear their wedding bands. I guess it's a way to reassure myself that it's perfectly okay to NOT wear one (because I won't, and if I don't, I don't expect my husband to).

[xmrth]

I always look for them on the right hand on girls. Not that I am interested in other girls, but I'm just curious. And I like to see how big of a rock their boyfriends get them, or husbands/fiance.

[doyathink]

I think a lot of men dont look...Ive been hit on at bars & I always have to point out the ring...and its an average sized ring. Then they're like "oops, didnt see that!"

 

Yep, had that happen too.

 

I would look to see if a man is wearing one.....

[Liaka]

I was actually planning on getting a fake rock so I stopped getting hit on when I go out. If it doesn't work atleast I can point it out and tell them i'm engaged... Easy way to let someone down...

[Kevin T]

First thing I consciously look for.

[lifes2short]

I check for a wedding ring, even though I know a lot of men don't wear them. Just curiosity I suppose as it would never enter my head to hit on anyone else given the fact I am married. My husband never checks for a wedding ring. Probably too busy looking at their other assets.

 

He wore his wedding ring for the first few years after we were married and then all of a sudden it came off. I now realise he didn't want anyone (well I suppose females actually) to know he was married. I was hurt by this as I had never forced him to wear a ring and he wanted to buy one. After quite a few years of him not wearing it I finally asked him to. It made me feel that our marriage was not a priority for him and that he was looking elsewhere. He now wears it, but the I have to laugh as he takes it off if he gets angry with me. Soooooo childish.

[MrKadash]

Absolutely one of the first things I look for or notice.