Do you want to get caught?

[Robert Smith]

Is there anyone out there who was unhappy in their marriage so they unfortunately fell into an affair and then once it happned wanted to get caught so they could leave their SO?

[Ash]

It never happened with me, but it definitely does happen. It's rather a mean way to get out of a relationship.

[BetterKarma]

Didn't that happen to Kylie Minoque recently?

 

That's the coward's way out. If you don't want to be in the relationship then just tell your SO, don't force your SO to do your dirty work for you.

[rocio]

It never happened with me, but it definitely does happen. It's rather a mean way to get out of a relationship.

 

Yeah, I'll say. It doesn't get much lower than that.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

why do you need to get caught to leave? i think this means you don't have very good communication with your partner, or are more into playing games than dealing with the issues directly.

 

it is FAR more hurtful to your partner to discover an infidelity than to be addressed directly about problems and your feelings about the marriage... it causes a huge amount of personal grief and stress for the partner to discover you are cheating... so they have to deal with not only a breakup, but a betrayal.

 

so take the straighter, higher road and deal with your marital problems directly rather than betraying your spouse... that's just twisting the knife and a really unkind/mean thing to wish for.

[kermit]

At some point you just don't care. But it's cowardly. It would be better to deal with it up front. Be honest, end it, then start seeing someone else. Otherwise it's not really over is it?

[Bethany]

Robert, if I were you I would end the affair and give my marriage one last try and if things don't work out at least you know deep down that you gave it all your attention and did your best to make it work before you walk away.

 

Then if things don't work out, you will leave as a single man who tried his best for his family rather than a cheating lying husband, understand?

 

That's the only fair thing to do in those circumstances, in my opinion anyway. The least hurt you cause the better for everyone.

[yeawutever]

Why would anyone who's having an affair be soo obvious as to get caught in the act. Usually if someone's having a long-term affair, it's kept a secret for years or that person dumps their SO without ever revealing the real reason.