jakeywakey Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 ok, so about a week and a half ago i met this girl at a party, she was pretty and we were drinking and eventually made out and stuff. the night ended (at like 6 am) and we exchanged numbers and all this. a couple days later we went to the movies and then a couple days after that we did it again but went further this time. we went for a drive afterwards and she told me all this stuff about like 5-10 guys shes been with (take that in whatever sense you want to) in the last couple of years and just completely blindsided me, i just wanted to end the date right there...she also said one of the guys was a friend with benefits currently. so i was just about ready to drop her off, but felt like id keep it going, we went up to a mountain here and made out for awhile and then i just held her in my arms, i felt like she wanted to go further though, but i was not prepared...in more ways than one (condoms)...anyway, i dropped her off in the early morning and talked to her later that day, since then we havent done anything and i think its partially my fault. i wanted something more out of her and i but i dont think she wants that, does she just want more sex? id be down with that too i guess, but i feel weird doing it just for it, especially when we have these nice, romantic moments too, so what does she want? and if it is only sex should i go for it? thanks for any help Quote Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 At this point I would not be concerned with what she wants. The situation right now seems to be that you two hook up. If you want more than a hook up then she that is something she probably isnt going to give you. The truth is that you do not know what she wants but you can only infer this from her actions so that is going to mean you would have to spend more time with her unless you want to assume. Quote Link to comment
chai714 Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 She could be able to disconnect from sex and emotions. From my experience, most women need to form some kind of emotional bond for sex to occur. From what you've described, it seems as if she doesn't require that emotional bond for sex to occur. She's also told you that she's seeing another "friend with benefits" so what does that tell you about her? That she's fooling around with you and someone else. How does that make you feel? Quote Link to comment
jakeywakey Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 At this point I would not be concerned with what she wants. The situation right now seems to be that you two hook up. If you want more than a hook up then she that is something she probably isnt going to give you. The truth is that you do not know what she wants but you can only infer this from her actions so that is going to mean you would have to spend more time with her unless you want to assume. we were together again last night and i know if anything she would just want sex now, she tells me things that no girl would tell a guy if they actually had interest in them, basically constantly raving about her ex and how nothing could ever be that good again...yea i really want to hear all this, i think she just wants sex and doesnt care if its me or someone else, which makes me feel kind of hollow inside, because i think sometimes we connect...its like shes the stereotypical male and im the stereotypical female, maybe i should just take it for what it is and move on, with or without her? Quote Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 Personally I would not get into a situation where I was having sex with a person that I and a romantic interest in and all she wanted was sex. If you believe that she just wants sex and you want more than that then you should just move on. Quote Link to comment
jakeywakey Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 Personally I would not get into a situation where I was having sex with a person that I and a romantic interest in and all she wanted was sex. If you believe that she just wants sex and you want more than that then you should just move on. i think youre right, no point in getting hurt, thanks for your help Quote Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 why don't you ask HER?? oh and love the screen name! LOVE it! Quote Link to comment
jakeywakey Posted February 1, 2007 Author Share Posted February 1, 2007 why don't you ask HER?? oh and love the screen name! LOVE it! i think im afraid that im right, that sex is all she wants...thats why i just posted on here...what can i say im not that type of person, i would like to with her, dont get me wrong, but i know id get emotionally attached to her because i already feel like i am, i do this alot, get attached to easily...i wish i didnt Quote Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted February 1, 2007 Share Posted February 1, 2007 why don't you ask HER?? oh and love the screen name! LOVE it! If he has observed her actions and knows of her history then he does not have to ask. He can infer from what he has seen what she is looking for. Quote Link to comment
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