First date

[Anathema001]

hello everyone,

 

I must say that usually I have no problems with relationships but this time I really had alot of questions that upset me. I even made this account just to be able to share my questions.

 

So end last week i went out with a girl who works together with me.

We spent like 3 fantastic hours together and we had great time. Actually I think it is the first time in my life that i met someone who is just like me, and also had the same projects for in the future.

 

In short ... i was totaly charmed by that girl.

 

Now here is where the trouble starts for me. I believe she gave me hints to kiss her but nothing happened ...

I feel so bad about whole this , not the really the fact that i didn't kissed her but the fact that I think I didn't showed her the affection she diserved.

 

Now i start thinking she thinks I don't like her but that isn't true ... its just I never have been a "straight" guy and to other people I am known as someone who has alot of problems to show his true feelings A bit like someone wo is very emotional but on the outside he appears cold

 

Why do I think that ? Because she told me later "cu at work" and for me its like a hint that she doesn't want any further date. But I aint sure of this since we had such a great time and I could hardly believe she doesn't want to see me again.

 

Now I thought about asking her about again tomorow for a dinner. I look forward to this like another chance. But I am affraid of her possible reactions.

 

The other thing is that my health is suffering of all this. NEVER ever a girl had reached so deep inside me. I just have to see her again and I think that if she doesnt I will become highly depressive. Why ? Because i think i made several mistakes who could have been avoided.

 

I just wish i could show my deep feelings to her without any problem.

 

So some of my questions are : If nothing happened on that date is that bad ?

Do u hink I still have a chance ? What should i do ? Any hints to help stress ?

 

PS : I may sound a bit paranoic but usually I aint like that. I think that at the moment i am very confused.

And sorry for my bad english it isnt my main language.

[nadine_3110]

Ask her out again. I know you're scared of her reaction but you can't win unless you try. If this girl is so important to you, go for it! On your next date, try to touch her hand, show her that you want to be around her, meet her eye when you talk to her. Respond to the stories she has. Maybe get her some flowers at the beginning of the date, or even better, the day of your date, send her flowers through a carrier. That would be awesome!

 

Good luck!

[Anathema001]

Ask her out again. I know you're scared of her reaction but you can't win unless you try. If this girl is so important to you, go for it! On your next date, try to touch her hand, show her that you want to be around her, meet her eye when you talk to her. Respond to the stories she has. Maybe get her some flowers at the beginning of the date, or even better, the day of your date, send her flowers through a carrier. That would be awesome!

 

Good luck!

Ok I will do that.

 

But about the flowers ... I always thought it would be nice to give that but like all my friends tell me its "oldstyle". Also alot of girls i know think like that

 

Now I know women like a little extra attention so why not. After all I like her but am always scepetic when i hear the comments of others

[Aurian]

She might just assume you're shy, hey? Ask her out for another date and if you're too shy to try kiss her, then work your way up to it by taking her hand

[Anathema001]

She might just assume you're shy, hey? Ask her out for another date and if you're too shy to try kiss her, then work your way up to it by taking her hand

 

Well I will do that for sure but I hope she will date me again and not think I aint interested in her.

 

I already phoned her back wednesday to go out eating sonething. But she didnt answered but I left a message. Dam that makes me nervous ><.>

[finewhine]

Don't be nervous, and DON'T give her flowers. Kiss her when you go out on that date with her already! I believe in laying it out there a little bit to get rejected or accepted - that way, you won't build it up in your mind too much.

 

Good luck, dude!