Parsley Posted January 31, 2007 Share Posted January 31, 2007 Hey I've put this in here instead of Dating and Shy People...because this has nothing to do with dating whatsoever - and if I could overcome this I would see it as Personal Growth! Right. Well, I love to sing, as do a lot of people! I've always loved singing, and always have sung. I could hardly not - I have a very musical family, and my mum has an amazing voice. I'm in a choir at church (it's a folk choir though - my mum and I play guitar also), had singing lessons for about 3 years ("classical" training I guess...I learnt how to sing songs from musicals), and am in a different choir with my mum and sister that does a large range of things - from Robbie Williams, to Karl Jenkins, to Andrew Lloyd Webber. I don't have a bad voice. I'm not being arrogant - I just know that it can be good, and is better than some. It was at it's best whilst I was in singing lessons, but that was because they were one-to-one. But now I'm in this other choir and my self-confidence has gone back to what it was before my lessons. Most of the time I don't have to worry about it - until recently. We've started a new song. We're separated in Soprano, Alto, Tenor and Bass. I'm a soprano. In this particular song the choir...guy, chose me to sing the soprano solo. The first time we ever went through it and I had to sing alone, I thought I was going to black out. I could feel my heart pumping so hard, I was shaking like crazy, which led to my voice being quiet and shaky also. I felt like bursting into tears the whole time. Today was the second time we did it, and I spent the whole week psyching myself up for it, and ok, it wasn't as bad as before, but there were moments just like before. If I screw up somehow I can't let go of it and so everything else after that suffers until the others come in and I get a chance to calm down before starting solo again. What can I do to stop this? I'd love to sing in front of people, I daydream about it all the time - but even when I do karaoke I feel physically sick afterwards. I couldn't even sing to my ex, though I desperately wanted to (obviously, whilst we were together. I don't wish to serenade him now). I try a load of calming techniques I learnt when I did drama for 4 years - all the breathing beforehand, stroking soft areas of skin and pulse points. It didn't work. Anything else? Please. Sorry it's long.. Quote Link to comment
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