Jump to content

This is the worst pain ever.


craigm
 Share

Recommended Posts

Hello,

 

My name is Craig, I'm almost 17. its my first post on theese forums.

 

Last week myself and my girlfriend decided to take a break, on the day of our 16 months. It was truly the hardest thing I've ever done. 2 days later, we ended our relationship for good.

 

This hurts so much. Throwing up, crying, not being able to sleep. I have exams this week, I can't study. When we began to date, I made the mistake of stop talking to my friends and now I've got no one. No one to talk to... I can't stop thinking about her.

 

The pain I'm feeling isnt going away. I dont know what to do... shes my everything, and now I've got nothing but time.

 

Someone help me.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Hey Craig… break ups are nasty… It’s hard to deal with, especially if you still love the individual… like in my scenario, I still love the guy I had to say goodbye to…

 

Just take a break, figure out what makes you happy… for me, going through my break up is confusing…and I’ve gotten sick since we stopped talking. I’m sure there will be other girls… you’re a bit older then I am… but still young. So you have a lifetime to find the girl that’s right for you…

 

Letting go is the hardest part… you don’t necessarily have to let go of her completely… just learn from your relationship… and hope that she’ll be happier without you, and you will sooner or later, find someone that makes your happier then she ever did…

 

Good luck…

Link to comment
Share on other sites

They are the worst feelings in the world. It hurts a lot, like why did i deserve this. I was the good person, yet im the one hurting. He gets to be happy and move on to someone new, and I get to sit here and count the days that we haven't talked. Its just rough, and im really sad, but im pulling through, and just trying to make it to each day without calling him.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Its so hard not to think about her... hard not to call her.

 

We talked to each other every single night for 1.5 years. NC is so hard now. I can barley get in a few hours of sleep each night.

 

Thanks for the replys... I've been reading around here, seems like alot of people go through the same stuff I am. I think I found a new home for a while.

 

Craig

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Oh, I've talked to people. Many, many people. I get the same responses:

 

Forget about her, she was your first love, your a good guy and its her loss, etc, etc...

Its really not that easy.

But... theyre right. Ill always love her. She was my first love.

 

Anyways, good luck Python and thanks.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Craig I too have been where you are. I did the same thing, I neglected my friends cause I spent all my time with my girlfriend. She did the same thing, we were infatuated with each other and it was the best time of my life. But there were things missing. Friends, other dimensions. But I loved her, we were each others best friends and lovers. It was so hard when after a year and a half she left me.

 

I couldn't sleep. I had to take Tylenol PM every night for a month. I had no desire to do anything. I cried all day and all night. I kept trying, I kept hoping, I kept seeing her. I finally had the guts to tell her we couldnt keep this up, I loved her too much and just hanging out as friends and talking and fighting were killing me. I loved her and didnt want to have to do that.

 

You will be alright. I know you dont have anyone now, reconnect with your friends even though it may be hard. Just do your best. Post here, keep in NC and you'll heal slowly but surely.

 

I am 8 months past my breakup and about 4-5 since we stopped hanging out and talking. It still hurts, I still miss her. But its not as intense. I can lead my life again. I can be alright. I have reconnected with many friends, I have learned so much about myself. You will too.

 

I was thinking about breakups. And how after so many I thought I wouldnt find anyone else. But I realized that after every breakup I had (whether I initiated it or not) I always found someone else, even if it didnt come for awhile. And if I hadnt had those breakups I wouldnt have met my future exes.

 

You will be alright. Keep posting here we're all here to help you.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Craig what's up? Yeah man it's hard and it stinks being broken up with. My girlfriend of 6 years dumped me about a year and a half ago. I was 24 at the time. I was pretty distraught. My Grandma told me something that stuck in my mind though. "One chapter of your book of life closes, and another one opens."

 

Well I'm hear to tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Hear I am a year and a half later and I just celebrated my 1 year anniversary with my new girlfriend. At the time I didn't think I would ever find anyone again.

 

Just keep in mind, no relationship is ever worth comprimising friends for. Friends are one of the most important things you can have in your life. Take this lesson and apply it to your next relationship.

 

It's hard to see outside of your situation when it happens, but you will get through this and be able to look back on it as a growing experience. No one has ever died of a heart break.

 

Chin up.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Hey,

Today after exams were over (thank god), we ran into each other in the halls. I convinced her to go to Starbucks with me for some coffee. So we did, and we talked it over and stuff. We are begininng NC today. I deleted her from my MSN list, as well as her friends. I feel good right now... hopefully things will start to look better. I'm taking a girl out on Friday night to dinner and the movies. she was recently broke up with too, after 2 years. So we have alot in common and plan to talk alot. We were friends as kids and were just going to catch up.

Thanks for being there guys, I'll keep you posted.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Hey,

Today after exams were over (thank god), we ran into each other in the halls. I convinced her to go to Starbucks with me for some coffee. So we did, and we talked it over and stuff. We are begininng NC today. I deleted her from my MSN list, as well as her friends. I feel good right now... hopefully things will start to look better. I'm taking a girl out on Friday night to dinner and the movies. she was recently broke up with too, after 2 years. So we have alot in common and plan to talk alot. We were friends as kids and were just going to catch up.

Thanks for being there guys, I'll keep you posted.

 

Just be careful and don't jump into things with another girl quite yet. Give yourself some time to heal and be happy beign single first.

 

Imagine how much worse it will feel if things turn out to not work out with this girl in a month or so. It will be like twice the pain.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Restore formatting

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

 Share

  • Top Discussions this Week

  • Our picks

    • Why You Should NEVER Chase Your Ex
      You should NEVER chase your ex, no matter what... even if you want to get back together. In this video, I’ll explain what exactly I mean by that… and why it’s so important if you want your ex back. Here's the simple truth: if you DO want to give yourself the best possible chance of starting over with your ex, you simply CANNOT let yourself start chasing them… it just doesn’t work, even though it’s the natural human reaction to a breakup and often feels like the right way to get them back. Even if you DON'T want your ex back, you still shouldn't let yourself chase after them. Watch the full video to find out why...

       
      • 0 replies
    • How Do You Know She’s The One? 5 Signs She’s The One & 1 Red Flag! 🚩
      How Do You Know She’s The One? 5 Signs She’s The One & 1 Red Flag! 🚩... In this dating advice video, I will explain to you how to know she’s the one and give you five signs she’s the one as well as give you one red flag that you need to look out for. You may want to know whether she’s the one on first dates, online dating, or somewhere in the dating process. Take heed to these dating tips and be sure to watch the entire video.

       
      • 0 replies
    • 5 Odd Signs You're Seeking Approval from Others Outside of Yourself
      In this YouTube Video, Lisa A Romano discusses 5 signs that indicate you're still seeking approval from others outside of you. If you are codependent, and you struggle with self-love, you may not realize the signs you're seeking approval from others. Childhood trauma and emotional neglect lead to a sense of feeling unseen. If you feel unseen, you may seek approval in odd ways. It may not be obvious when you are looking for validation from others. In this video, Lisa A Romano breaks down these 5 signs, and what they mean; hypervigilance, neediness, low self-worth, never feeling fulfilled and what it means when you become a perpetual seeker.

       
      • 0 replies
    • 3 Simple Strategies To Ditch The Imposter Syndrome
      Have you ever felt like you're a fraud who doesn't belong? According to a recent article published in the International Journal of Behavioral Science, seven in every ten people have or will experience impostor syndrome at some point in their lives. We couldn't see our tribe suffering from this anymore, so we brought in the person who'll help you ditch this feeling for good. In this video, peak performance expert Shadé Zahrai joins Vishen to discuss how to supercharge your life and improve your self-esteem by constructing your own reality, leveraging your self-awareness, and regaining control over your inner critic

       
      • 0 replies
    • 5 Things People Who’ve Been Mentally Abused Do
      Do you know how common mental abuse is? According to The National Center for Biotechnology Information, 80 percent of the population has experienced some form of abusive relationship and behavior. However, despite how frequent it is, emotional abuse is still hard to spot. Unlike physical abuse, mental abuse doesn’t leave any visible scars; instead, it affects someone’s behavior, mindset, and mentality. This means some people deny they’ve been mentally abused, and others may not even recognize the toxic behavior. So, whether you’re reading this to be able to recognize emotional abuse in others or recognize it in yourself, these a few things people who’ve been mentally abused do are sure to help you be more empathetic and kinder.

       
      • 0 replies
×
×
  • Create New...