cold..

[Nucca]

 

 

^that was my first thread...she doesn't care about me anymore but I still "like" her...should I move on? or should I try once again?

[robowarrior]

Move on, love has got to go 'both ways'.

[rsxguy520]

move on, its like the best thing you can do for youself.

[Nucca]

I can't move on............

she was like my backbone and it feels like its snapped wiithout her

[Wandering_Sword]

But you don't have much of a choice here. So take this opportunity to care of number one and that is yourself. Take whatever time you need to "mourn" the loss of the relationship and try to move on with your life. It will be rough and at one time I also felt like my world had crumbled beneath my feet, but you will survive and grow strong with each coming day. But you have to be willing to do this, no amount of pleading and begging will bring her back so why fret over something you have no control over? Right now your heart is dictating all your moves, but you have to let your brain be heard too. Trust us, every person on this board has been through the same thing, but eventually we had to start listening to our heads and silence the heart enough to regain our equilibrium.

[valenski]

she was like my backbone and it feels like its snapped wiithout her

Yeah its going to feel like that for a little while, its also going to be lonely and you're going hate yourself alot but the further apart you grow the more she will fade, give some time Nucca and You'll see what I'm talking about.

[Nucca]

I'll try to heal..but how should I act towards her? I think she knows I still like her...and everytime she's online I get disappointed when she doesn't write to me..should I delete her from my list and not talk to her ??

 

ps: I see her everyday in school...:S

[TijuanaJones]

I'll try to heal..but how should I act towards her? I think she knows I still like her...and everytime she's online I get disappointed when she doesn't write to me..should I delete her from my list and not talk to her ??

 

ps: I see her everyday in school...:S

 

I blocked and deleted my ex... also dont look at her online profiles. Try to let go. There's no point in having her in your MSN if you dont talk to her, right? Let her miss you, but dont try to think about the effect that your actions have on her... I am trying to do the same...

[Nucca]

there's one thing that's bothering me..if you read the link you'll know that she helped me through hard times..but the thing I'm wondering is, if she helped me to be "kind" or if it was because she really cared about me?? Because if she did really care about me then she would at least have asked me how I'm doing (she hasn't done that in 4-5 months, maybe once in the middle). And if that's true that means that she never cared for me, she helped me to make her self feel better....

[Nucca]

Ok update:

 

On friday I was in the studio recording a track (yeah, I rap) so I didn't see her because I wasn't in school that day. Later during the evening I was going to the movies to watch Rocky Balboa with some friends and she sent me a text message saying: "Hi, how you doing? how was the studio session? hope you're doing fine. bye, kisses"..I replied back: "it was all good, couldn't finish the track though..anyways now I'ma watch Rocky6, hope you have fun in Malmö"

She sent back a mess: "Thanks! hope you have fun aswell. It's all good over here, talk to you later, kiss"

I don't want get my hopes up high again for nothing, but I didn't understand why she send me that mess. why is she sending me text if she's not interested:s???

 

ohh yeah..PS, during the weekend she is in Malmö (another city in sweden, we live in stockholm)

[Wandering_Sword]

Don't read too much into the texts or trying to figure her out. You won't be able to and you'll drive yourself nuts trying. Keep doing what your doing and in time you will be better.

Sounds like you're on the right path to healing. Keep up the good work and stay strong

[Nucca]

last year on the 14th, valentines day, that's when I told her how I felt about her and gave her a flower. I was thinking should I do something for her on this valentines? Like write a poem or something?

She's playing hard but still at the same time she is talking to me (maybe she's not interested, don't know)

 

OR I was thinking, I should give a flower to another girl Friend (flower in a friendly way) to make HER jealous??

[LostLoveinLosAngeles]

Don't try to make her jealous man. You need to be your genuine self. You can try to write her a poem... but do not place any expectations on it. I myself write (even though I have bad grammar) and wrote the sweetest letter in the world to my ex (my now gf) and it didnt work. I think she is giving you some good signs but dont expect things to magically change. I would ask her specifically why she texted you in the first place. Tell her straight what your wants are and she doesnt want that then you should move the uck on.

[iceman85]

Best advice i can give you is dont do anything. This girl hasnt expressed any interest romantically in you that I can see.

 

I think she sees you as that classic "nice guy" who is a wonderful guy to be around but she does not want to be in a relationship with you at the moment.

 

She does care about you. The magnitude to which we dont know. Just be yourself. No gifts, no poems, no songs, no flowers. Just be who you are and dont try to win her heart. If its meant to be, just being who you are will win her more than any gift you can give her.

[Nucca]

thanks iceman, yeah she hasn't expressed any interest romantically, I won't give her nothing..I'll be myself.

''If its meant to be, just being who you are will win her more than any gift you can give her.'' --> true.

[Nucca]

We were talking today on msn..and she told me that she had a dream about her ex. (becasue she recently talked to him) I didn't care. but while she told the dream she said that she has to tell her ex about the dream..which means that they talk casually and I guess she likes him more than me. she knows I like her too. I think I'ma let this girl go even though I really like her but I know if I don't, it will only hurt me in the long run..

 

but how should I do it? we're in the same class etc..should I just be cold to her when she talks to me? how should I respond? help me please

[Nucca]

so many views, no replies...I need advice ^

[in_love]

how should I do it? we're in the same class etc..should I just be cold to her when she talks to me? how should I respond? help me please

 

How?

 

Do what she did to you bro!

 

Walk away. Simple, be nice but just force yourself to no longer care. As soon as my ex starts showing an interest in some other guy other than me I am gone!

[Wandering_Sword]

Be polite. If she says "hi" you say "hi." If she tries to have a conversation make it short. And if you are having difficulty with any of this or even NC, remember she is interested in another guy! Meaning that if they get together, they will be doing the stuff you guys did except with another person. I don't mean to be harsh but sometimes its the repeated trauma that will help form a callous around your heart towards the ex (this is my opinion of course and brutal to think about). Whatever you ultimately choose to do, we are here for you and will not judge you on those actions

[Nucca]

thanks for the replies..but I don't get her, when ever I log into msn she always starts a conversation and talks to me, asks whats up and asks about my day...maybe she's trying to make me jealous using her ex? I dunno..and she also asked me when my birthday is coming up (soon) and I know she'll buy me a gift..so confusing :S

[Wandering_Sword]

Sounds like she is keeping you on the proverbial fish hook. Let that stuff go, cut the chit chat to a minimum and if she gives a gift, explain why you can't take it, but remember to thank her for the effort. And if she has a fit, then she's off her rock and you need to avoid that nonsense. She should know better, but she's doing this to keep you in her back pocket.

Sure it feels nice, warm and fuzzy back there, but also remember that's where her digested food comes out too.