Former intimate partners as "friends"

[Rabican]

I would just flat out tell him what you just posted. If you are going to have a serious relationship with someone then you need to be able to discuss situations such as you mentioned. Thats a pretty fundamental thing. For your relationship to work, you need to come to an understanding, and agreement on a big issue like this. If its one sided, ie he doesnt trust you to hang with a guy, but you are supposed to trust him... you will most likely become bitter about this, and at the same time develope a sense of mistrust in him. Do yourself a favor and confront this now.

[fnlyfrei]

Yes, it is a serious relationship now...we are engaged ! And Michelleth is right...old girlfriends are "whatever."...(eye roll)..and yes again..we have to hash out many things before we are married in July...but he loves me, and I love him and we can work through anything. I suppose if he had really cared about any of his ex-girlfriends to that degree....I wouldn't be the one with the ring.

[Batya33]

Congratulations! Sounds like both of you are highly motivated to work on this issue.