Kind of Forgotten

[BrokenLaughter]

Hello.

 

So I have this friend Jack. At one point we were best friends. In fact he was like a brother to me. But, every time he gets a new girlfriend, he always ends up hanging out with her more than me. Almost to the point where he barely notices me at all. Now I understand that all relationships require time and sacrifice, but does that sacrifice involve letting your friends down? The worst part is I'm not sure what to think. I keep end up getting angry with his girlfriend, even though she is clearly not the issue. Jack doesn't really know what is going on with me, but thats probably because he doesn't even speak to me when she is around.

This is actually a repeating issue with me, every time a friend of mine gets a girl, they forget about all their other friends. So what do I do? Thanks!

[Portage]

This is part of human nature. It happens to us all, and we are all guilty of reciprocating to a certain point. The honeymoon stage always make you a bit giddy in the beginning, don't worry, he'll come crashing back down to planet earth soon enough.

 

I would give Jack a little distance and then maybe discuss your feelings. He may be so ga-ga he hasn't the foggiest notion on your thoughts. Be kind to the love crazed (lol), honesty is your best policy.

 

Your turn will soon follow

[Honey Pumpkin]

At one point we were best friends. In fact he was like a brother to me. But, every time he gets a new girlfriend, he always ends up hanging out with her more than me. Almost to the point where he barely notices me at all.

 

Just tell him - he probably doesn't know he's doing it. Make plans with him, and see if he blows you off. Then if he does, just be calm and upfront, and say what you feel. Sometimes we all hold on to these feelings, and don't share them. People aren't mind-readers, you know. We assume that people know what we are thinking and feeling, but they DON'T! If you tell him and he carries on doing it, then you can get mad. But until then, I bet he doesn't even know he's doing it.

 

Good luck!!

[CHEMICAL_ROMANCEXXX]

Have to say i've been guilty of doing what your friend Jack is doing. In the early stage of a relationship often all you want to do is be with your new girlfriend and its easy to unfortunately push your friends to one side in the phase of infatuation.

 

For me personally it was when I got my fingers burned by love that I realised how important my friends were to me and how I had not appreciate them as much as i should off. I was too busy giving everything to one women-who left me!! Never again. Your friends are always there for you. He has a few lessons to learn if you ask me, friends should never be fully pushed to one side. Of course he will have slightly less time for you now but just because he is in a relationship does not mean that you should be ignored-thats not what being friends is about, being friends is a two way thing.