I know im a broken record!

[John14087]

ok someone plz help me out here. I work at a restaurant and there is a girl there i have a huge crush on, i mean HUGE! I really dont have a problem talking to her normally, actually, I look forward to working with her everytime we are scheduled the same day! But there are a couple of problems that prevent me from taking the next step.

 

1. The Sister My sister works there too, but, my crush and her arent exactly on the best terms. Im afraid if i try to make a move, my sis will make my life a living hell! Even when I hug my crush, i can feel my sisters scorn!

2. Her Behavior My crush's behavior towards other guys is another problem for me. Its like how exactly am i supposed to tell if she is only into me when shes flirting with all the other guys i work with including me. How do i tell!!????

 

Thanks!

[friscodj]

1) You might try talking to your sister about this and finding out exactly why she isn't on the best of terms with this woman. Perhaps she tells you something compelling that wipes out your attraction, e.g., she made out with your sister's boyfriend or something. If you still want to ask her out, acknowledge her feelings, tell her you have a good feeling about this, and to please stay out of it.

 

2) I'd say you can tell by asking her to do something with you. Find out what she enjoys, find something that matches what you enjoy, and ask her to do it on a specific day. Let's start there...

 

I think you may be overthinking this and/or thinking too far ahead here. You already have a rapport established with this woman, just keep it casual, as you have been doing, for this first attempt and go from there. One step at a time here.

[BYOB]

Are you in good terms with your sister ?

#1 might be because of #2. ie Your sister might not like that constant flirting attitude.

 

Concerning her attitude, you can't tell until there will be her and you in the place. So you have to meet her somewhere else in order to be able to identify the signs you're looking for. She might be flirty with all of the guys but it's different when you're only two.

[LollieSimone]

Why do you have a crush on her? Is she beautiful? Funny? Smart? What is attracting you to her? Is it because she's flirty? Why are you having such a hard time with this?

 

These are some questions you need to answer for yourself. And you defintely need to ask your sister why she doesn't like this girl. She may have a POV that you don't.