Will it last

[netsniper]

Just a quick question, I am 53 and my partner is 23 she is very mature, we have been together for 3 years, the question is WILL IT LAST ????????

 

Netsniper

[keefy1972]

That's a huge gap. Have you covered the issues of marriage and children?

[CarnelianButterfly]

Communication. Every relationship needs it and with your age gap there are issues to be considered, kids, marriage, jobs, and such. Not any different from any of the issues that face a non-age-gap couple. Talk, work together, be kind to each other, respect the others opinion and be happy.

[netsniper]

Yes we have talked about both but have not yet made any decissions, I know that time is not on my side but I don't want to rush her into anything,

 

Netsniper

[Hope75]

Hi There,

 

I agree with the others that the most important thing is communication and shared goals. 30 years is a big age gap and you are right that time is not in your favor if you want to get married and have children, but you as the older party being the male, it is more possible than if she were the older person.

 

I'm curious if just the age difference is making you question if you will last? How has the relationship been thus far? Any problems?

 

You say that you've talked about a future but haven't made any decisions. What sort of things have you talked about? Does she want marriage and children?

 

Have you talked about scenarios such as when she is 50 and you are 80, and the care that you may or may not need?

[netsniper]

Hi There,

 

I agree with the others that the most important thing is communication and shared goals. 30 years is a big age gap and you are right that time is not in your favor if you want to get married and have children, but you as the older party being the male, it is more possible than if she were the older person.

 

I'm curious if just the age difference is making you question if you will last? How has the relationship been thus far? Any problems?

 

You say that you've talked about a future but haven't made any decisions. What sort of things have you talked about? Does she want marriage and children?

 

Have you talked about scenarios such as when she is 50 and you are 80, and the care that you may or may not need?

Our Relationship has been fine with no problems,we have talked about marriage and she is all for it, but it's me that thinks she needs time to be sure it's what she really wants, we have talked about the future and what it may or may not hold but it's all supposition, and we can't really come to any conclusions about it however she is fully aware of the fact that I may or may not need to be cared for in later life

 

Netsniper

[BeStrongBeHappy]

it may last... until she decides she is only 33 and doesn't want to settle into retirement with Grandpa!

 

honestly, please be cautious... i know someone who married someone 25 years younger when he was in his early 40s, and they stayed together for 22 years, but just when he was wanting to retire and spend time at home with her, she started an affair with a man her own age, and took him for alimony and half his assets and pensions, though she never worked at all during their marriage...

 

lots of young girls are attracted to much older men because of their ASSETS and ability to support them in a higher style than young men can, but when the situation is reversed, and it looks like the woman has to start taking care of him in his old age, she bails and runs off with his money AND a younger man...

 

best of luck, but protect your assets since you don't want to be impoverished and alone in your old age...