does this sound bad??

[LDtime]

i have been with my bf for about a year and a half. Before we were togeather I was very happy as a person, not that I am not now. I am just saying that I am very happy being alone, I dont really 'need' to be with someone to be happy.

 

When we get in fights, and we dont get in actuall fights very often. It takes so much of me to just not say 'stuff it' and walk away.

 

This sounds really bad, but I think in a way I just want to say it to get his reaction. I want him to say that he wants to be with me, because when we fight he is very quiet. Which makes me more mad because I am a yeller.

 

I really dont know why I want to do this. I think I want to get a reaction out of him, or I just cant stand this aspect of realtionships--I really just hate dealing with fights all togeather.

 

I am really just venting right now, so sorry this is so random. But does anyone else do this or am I just crazy?

[Katiebaby]

OH MY GOD

 

Girl we are soo twins right now!! when i was single i used to laugh my head off all day, go surfing, hoon around in my car, do whatever i wanted i guess i had an awsome time.

 

My BF who ive been with for 3 yrs who i ABOLUTLEY adore have the occasional barney too, and he sits there all quiet, and i often find myself screaming put downs at him just to get him to spark up and say something back.... I often find its like arguing with a brick wall... then he gets upset and sulks off... meanwhile im standing red faced and heaving in the middle of the room... and after it all i think to myself... Gee Kate ur a for saying that... then i get upset all over again...

 

So yes huni ur normal... I think maybe (like me) u need to stop and count to three before u hearl nasty comments in the heat of the moment... (i am VERY guilty of this too so dont worry) Usually i say to him i need 5 mins, and i'll go chill and be alone... sometimes just the look of him makes me want to get my claws out... but he just sits there like he doesn't care... and when he's revved me up i need someone who will fight back... step up be a man...

 

When i was single i wasn't like that at all. I was one of those cool dudes who wouldn't give 2 if something happened... are u irritable like me? maybe we can help each other!

[Bethany]

This sounds really bad, but I think in a way I just want to say it to get his reaction. I want him to say that he wants to be with me, because when we fight he is very quiet. Which makes me more mad because I am a yeller.

 

 

Think about it, it's very hard to say that you want someone when they are yelling in your face.

 

Do you really want a relationsip like this? >>>

[valiantv]

Agreed - You can't really complain about his style of fighting when your's isn't too good either...

 

I'll just tell you from my (male) point of view, if someone starts shouting and bakin' at me, I just ignore them and wait for them to stop. After all, by shouting at me and not letting me get a word in edgeways, they are indirectly ignoring me. They are showing they have no interest in my point of view, why should I have an interest in theirs?

 

Anyway last thing I want to do is get in a pointless shouting match.