Frustated with him

[Chloedreams]

Long story short, My current boyfriend of about 6 weeks, was my high school sweetheart, we parted ways 18yrs ago, when I went to college and he went into the service... (no ill feelings) We just ran into each on a fluke and started dated.

 

Trouble is he is very moody, we get along wonderfully when we are physically together, which is about 2-3 times a week for several hours we both have children so we dont see each other that often.

 

We have been moving slowly and have a fantastic chemistry, and can talk for hours, he got really irritated with me last night, I said something as a come back to a comment he made about feeling alone, which I thought he was just messing around, and apparently he was serious, I was shocked and he got really irritated and hung up on me.

 

When I pulled a typical girl thing and called back, he got even more ticked because it was so late and he was at a friends home, and found my behavior rude, he proceeded to hang up again, after complaining that this was bull, I gave up, and went to bed.

 

Usually he calls me in the morning, and wishes me a good day, and tells he misses me and cant wait to see me, but today he did not, and I am really feeling I wont get the call I get in the late evening that I usually get, he works an odd schedule and I cannot call him due to his job (no he doesnt have another women in life, I am around his friends and family etc so dont think that has anything to do with it ). Nevermind the fact I dont want to call and make it worse, I know some guys need to brood about and calm down, but its been almost 24 hrs.

 

Other than this we have had many conversations, and he is a ball buster, likes to see if he can get a rise out of me, but we both usually end up laughing in the end, we have deep conversations, and our time together is wonderful, I know he was tired and wasnt feeling to great last night, but I am totally confused at how a small misunderstanding could have led to a total shut down. I really hate to think that this could have ruined a relationship that was going so well.

 

Thanks for listening.

[bigheart09]

Chloedreams,

Okay, my bf is the exact same way. I am going through the same thing right now with him. He got mad about something last night and now he is ignoring me. I hope it is not as deeprooted as my bfs problem.

[southerngirl]

Hey there, welcome to enotalone!

 

What was said that upset him, you said it was 'something' maybe with more info I could give better advice.

 

Possibly he just needs soem space but if he keeps having this type of temper he is not worth your time. 18 years have passed and you really do not know him anymore. Alot of water has gone under the bridge and you will need to get to know him all over again. First off, I wouldnt give him anymore slack than you would another 'new' boyfriend.

[Chloedreams]

Basically he said "he felt alone", I told him not to start (mind you he usually is joking around but can sound very serious. He hung up on me, he was at a friends house it was about 11pm, I called back and he got really pissed and told me I was rude, and what was I thinking calling someone elses house that late at night, and before he hung said "this is bull S#$T" that was the last I heard from him

[bigheart09]

Chloedreams, did u read my post? Not sure if it will help, but I have been dealing with my bf and he does stuff like that. I have been with him over a year, but not sure how long our relationship is going to last.

[Goblin]

Hi girls,

 

Sometimes when Im really tired and my gf is criticising me alot, I say Enough and I hang up and no lovely messages for her the next morning.

 

Man has emotions too and are sensitive beings too. We have our pride but when we recover, we'll come back. A good man will deal with this politely and if hes attracted to your looks he be nice, but if he looks into matter of the hearts more, hes more likely and comfortable to show hes angry.

 

Dont criticise him or bug him any further or call late night! He might go stonewalling again and youll feel more uncomfortable in return.

 

Maybe he needs space too. Too much time u both parted. get to know him all over again. Dont feel threatened by the past too...Careful..