Mixed up, feeling trapped and depressed

[blueNymph]

Hi,

 

I have been feeling extremely depressed lately. I have issues with my grades in college, living at home with my family, and a long distance relationship, and weight loss.

It seems that no matter what I do, I'm in the same rut as before. Nothing ever seems to improve. I feel trapped, and as if there is no choice. I can't do the things I want to do, or spend time with the person I'd like to spend time with. My parents have absolute control over my life. It drives me insane. Moving out right now is not an option.

I don't know really what advice to ask for, or what the real point of my posting is...but I do want someone to talk to.

I appreciate anyone who listens. Thank you very much.

-blue

[robowarrior]

You need to bring your life into calmer waters. Like a farmer, if you put too much hay on your fork the load becomes to heavy and you will fall.

 

Every situation in life is only temporarily, one day you will move out, one day you will be in a relationship and one day you will finish college.

 

So eventually your life will swing into another direction, however you have to make choices to go into the right direction.

 

So there is the list you mentioned that provides you with pressure.

 

-School

-Weight

-Relationships

 

If you imagine you where walking on a 50 mile journey on the same road, in a straight line. then at 32 miles you'd say, nothing changed, its still the same road,and the end does not seem in sight. However you and i know that once those 50 miles have been walked you will come at a crossroad for your life, taking you into new directions.

 

So hang on, even tho its hard. These are investments for your future, blow off steam in the weekends to release some pressure, however don't get into any trouble. If you aren't allowed to go out, do yoga and meditation. Come to ease with yourself , and those couple of hours where you can let go of all of your worries, will be very important to you, which you should stimulate on a continues basis for as long as you live.

 

About your weight, its actually not about your weight. Its about you who are dissatisfied with yourself no matter what weight you would have, you do this because you don't love yourself. If you did you could stand in front of the mirror and say ' Im satisfied with who i am'

 

So you definitly need to learn to love yourself, and you know school, its just a formality. Getting good grades and leaving school with a diploma, not because your parents want it or your teacher want it. In the FULL knowledge that your investing into your own life, and that its for your own good, and for your own future you goto school.

 

Every time you feel pressurized say to yourself 'im doing this for myself and not for anyone else' That way you come to the realisation that your life is your responsibility, and not anyone elses. We can only offer a helping hand, but you are the one who needs to climb out of the pit.

 

Just keep looking up to the see the light. Keep working on your grades, delay the relationship and be satisfied with who you are.

[Alabama]

Calm down, as robotwarrior suggested. Assess your situations, each by each. Try to think of different solutions to solve them. While your thiking of this, take time to relieve stress. Exercise, or do something you enjoy doing. This can help you relax your mind, so you can think clearly.

[blueNymph]

 

About your weight, its actually not about your weight. Its about you who are dissatisfied with yourself no matter what weight you would have, you do this because you don't love yourself. If you did you could stand in front of the mirror and say ' Im satisfied with who i am'

 

 

Actually, my parents have made many comments, and encouraged me to lose weight. That is the main reason I am doing it, or trying to.

 

I appreciate the rest of your post, thanks very much.

[blueNymph]

Calm down, as robotwarrior suggested. Assess your situations, each by each. Try to think of different solutions to solve them. While your thiking of this, take time to relieve stress. Exercise, or do something you enjoy doing. This can help you relax your mind, so you can think clearly.

 

Thanks for your post I appreciate it.