Are there such things as second chances?

[Justin Kun]

I posted a topic in another section of this website. In a nutshell, a girl liked me and I had liked her. We remained friends for some time and were happy. Till recently she became strange and "confused". Well, this confusion has led her to stray away from me and try to avoid my calls. So I finally called her this morning and told her nicely that she's making a mistake, and apologized for ever hurting her, that I'll leave it up to her to call me when she feels she's ready. 1-2 weeks ago, she went back and fourth "I like you" "I don't like you like that", she makes out with me "I like you". Not she says she doesn't like me like that again. Am I too real for her? I understand she's been through an abusive relationship but....our friendship meant alot to me. I cried myself to sleep 2 days in a row(yes, I'm wussy). I made a big mistake after my break up with my ex, instead of strengthening myself mentally, I sttrived to make myself physically strong. Now I am, but you can't work out your heart with weights, so I learned something from this. But I never would have expected this from her, she really is not the same person she used to be. So here are my questions to you, I'd appreciate answers and thank you so much:

 

1)Can I really just disappear, to reappear at a later time to resume a good relationship with her?

2)If so, can it turn into "like" again?

3)Is there really a such thing as being "confused" to make you do idiotic things for a period time?

4)If she doesn't call me by February 23rd(her birthday), should I mail her a birthday card or call her to wish her a happy birthday?

 

The reason I ask is from personal experience. One time I became upset and "confused" and chose to stop talking to my friends, including a good friend of mine. After a little we started talking again, and our friendship seemed better. A friend I know had a bad break up with his girlfriend only to get back together with her and share and even better relationship then before. Redemption is a tricky thing, but can it happen in this case? The time she isn't talking to me, I'm going to try to improve myself of course, I always try. I won't be exactly dwelling, just hoping. Afterall, "hope is a great thing, one of the best things out there. You can't kill a good thing".

[Day_Walker]

I dont believe that you should send her a b day card. This girl is not acting strange she just doesnt want to be with you. There is nothing to be confused about. Now it is up to you how you want to handle this situation you can still be friendly with her or you can just let it go. It path has its advantages.

[Justin Kun]

I dont believe that you should send her a b day card. This girl is not acting strange she just doesnt want to be with you. There is nothing to be confused about. Now it is up to you how you want to handle this situation you can still be friendly with her or you can just let it go. It path has its advantages.

 

Like doesn't go away just like that. And besides, that doesn't answer my question anyway. We're not talking so it's not like that matters right now, even if it true.

[Angstyboi]

"If you love her, let her go. For if she returns, she's yours and if she doesn't, she never was". I kind of live relationships by that quote, it maybe sketchy since girls come back sometimes just for a person to lean on, BUT I say there's always hope. If she does come back, just tell her that your trust in her has been broken and you need to see that you can trust her again.

[Justin Kun]

Thanks for the little advice I got. But it seems very mixed. Some people tell me that yes there is a such thing as redeeming one's self. Others don't believe so. And Day_Walker, she is acting strange because she wouldn't have made the action of making out with me if she were in the right mind.

[Momene]

As a general answer to the question, I'm very wary of 2nd chances, although it depends on the situation.

 

In her case, yo-yo indecisive people are bad for your mental health.