Interesting situation...

[Dan629]

Hey everyone. I posted on here not long ago about my break up. For those of you who do not know what happened, my g/f of 3yrs left me and it has been really hard on me. I would try calling her to talk and get her back but it only made it worse on me. Everyone told me to do the NC thing and every time I tried she would send me a text or something after a few days. I didn't have what it took to ignore her and I would reply. She actually came over one night and we talked a bit but she showed no intentions for us getting back together. Now my situation is this. I have chosen to join the US Air Force. I always wanted to join the Marines as a kid but my family is against that at this time. So the Air Force is my second choice. I wanted to do it in the past but being with my g/f always stopped me. Being with her was good enough and I didn't want to risk my life when I had something so special. I told her today that I was joining and she seemed a bit shocked but did not try to stop me at all. She told me "you gotta do what you gotta do to make yourself happy". So I talked to her a bit and now she is on her way over to see me. I know I should not be seeing her right now but if I am going to be going to be joining the military I do want to see her before I go. I still love her to death and miss her more than anything. And just so nobody thinks she is coming over to stop me, I am the one who asked her to come. She was always the one who was there for me when I was doing something big and it just didn't seem right to do this without seeing her. Do you guys think this is a bad idea? Do you think I am making a bad choice of talking to her even though I am going to be joining the Air Force very soon?

[anggrace]

No, I dont think its bad to talk to her. I think your lucky to be able to get along with her after the break-up. NC isnt for everyone. I dont see the point of throwing everything away just because things didnt work out. But one question, are you hoping she tries to get you to stay? Kinda sounds like you might be hoping for that.

[Dan629]

No I am not really hoping she will try and get me to stay. Although it would feel good if she did it is better that she doesn't because this is something I need to do. She came over and is gone now. We actually had a good time and laughed a lot. We were kissing each other a lot which I know was not good but we did not sleep with each other even know I know we both wanted to. Believe it or not I am not totally depressed now that she left and I kissed her an all. I'm sure I will see her again before I leave but she asked me to write her when I was away which made me feel good. She is the most precious thing in the world to me and it is going to kill me to leave without her. I am so used to making sure she is making good decisions and helping her through hard times that it is going to be hard to not be around to do it anymore. I am so nervous to go away but I really do think I am going to enjoy it. I always wanted to do something I know I would be proud of the rest of my life and now I have the chance to do it. If me and her are meant to be than we will end up back together years down the road when I am back home. If not than I guess it was not meant to be and I can accept that. But as far as the NC thing you mentioned. Me and her were always better friends than we were lovers while we were together so it is so easy for us to remain friends now. The only thing that will hurt is when she starts seeing new people but it is her life and I cannot control it. Even after we broke up (which was a hurtful one) we always crack up laughing when we talk and have a good time together and it has only been about a month.

[Dan629]

what are u talkin about?