I'm Crazy For Him

[HurleyBabe6917]

This might not technically be the right spot to put this thread, but I really don't care. I just need to get this off my chest because.. it's drving me crazy.

 

Here's my situation. It goes from last year, my sophomore year, to this year, my junior year.

 

Girl and Boy meet in class at school.

Girl and Boy both have SOs.

Girl is then a sophomore, Boy is then a Junior.

Girl and Boy become friends.

Girl and Boy flirt constantly.

Girl realizes how attracted she is to Boy.

Girl and Boy are talking online and confess their feelings for each other.

Girl and Boy become more attracted to each other each day.

Eventually, Boy gets moved into another class because he'd finished his credits for that class.

Girl feels lost without him.

Girl and Boy talk secretly in school and very often online.

Summer comes.

Girl and boy don't see each other.

Girl never loses feelings for Boy.

School starts back up.

Girl finds Boy, they hug and talk.

Girl has no SO, Boy still does.

Girl and Boy talk little because Girl goes to A.M. Career Center and Boy goes to P.M. Career Center.

Girl and Boy pass each other each day as Girl gets on bus and Boy gets off.

Girl realizes just how absolutely crazy she really is for Boy.

Girl isn't exactly sure how Boy still feels about Girl, but knows he is still attracted to her.

Girl is going crazy because Boy is all she thinks about.

Girl doesn't know what to do.

 

 

That pretty much sums up how I feel. Call me stupid,call me dumb, I don't care. I just want to know if anyone else has gone through this and what their opinions are and maybe if they have any advice.

 

I just don't know what you're supposed to do when you feel so strongly about someone you know you don't really have a chance with.

[Lady Bugg]

Sigh....I hear ya HB....

 

I have certainly been attracted to someone else while involved with another person. I don't think it's wrong ...as long as you are respectful of his relationship. I know it's frustrating...but just try to remain his friend for now. You never know.....his relationship might now last. Besides....the best relationships start out as friends first. In the meantime, keep your options open....

[HurleyBabe6917]

Sigh....I hear ya HB....

 

I have certainly been attracted to someone else while involved with another person. I don't think it's wrong ...as long as you are respectful of his relationship. I know it's frustrating...but just try to remain his friend for now. You never know.....his relationship might now last. Besides....the best relationships start out as friends first. In the meantime, keep your options open....

 

Thanks. Any advice is much appreciated.

It's so friggin hard. Errr.

I'm trying to be very respectful of their relationship.

I know I wouldn't want so biatch taking my man.

I don't think he'd leave her for me anyways.

By the way, you're gorgeous.

[adahy]

Thanks. Any advice is much appreciated.

It's so friggin hard. Errr.

I'm trying to be very respectful of their relationship.

I know I wouldn't want so biatch taking my man.

I don't think he'd leave her for me anyways.

By the way, you're gorgeous.

 

Hmmm. Every case is different, but generally speaking a guy will make an effort to be with you if he wants to be with you...especially if he already knows how a girl feels. Guys leave girlfriends, wives, etc. all the time...it's not rocket science. Maybe his feelings changed, maybe he's scared, maybe, maybe, maybe.....point is, he isn't making the effort to be with you! And, unless he's blind, he knows he can have you. So, I would move on if I were you....spare your heart the grief of uncertainty. I'm a guy, and I can say - this guy is an A-hole for leaving you hanging like this!

 

If he has feelings, he should act on them. If he doesn't, he shouldn't lead you on...and he should tell you. If his actions don't support his words, trust his actions. Always judge one by their actions, never their words. So, based on his actions, I would say he'd rather remain with his present girlfriend.

 

I could be wrong, just trying to spare you unnecessary grief and frustration. Good luck.

[HurleyBabe6917]

I understand what you are saying. Especially about a guy being with you if he knows you want to be with him.

 

I think that maybe he is scared.. scared of what will happen if it for some reason wouldn't work out between us. When I was with my ex, and I wanted to break up with him for "Boy", I never did because I was scared. Plus, Boy has been with his GF for probably around 2 years. I don't think he'd just give that away.

 

It was a little easier to move on in the summer, because I never really saw him. Once school started back up though, it's a whole different story. Even though I see him for maybe 2 minutes, I can't get him out of my head for the rest of the day.

 

I wish he felt as strongly for me as I feel for him. I just don't know what he thinks though. Wish I could read his mind.

[HurleyBabe6917]

Should I just get it over with and tell him, even if it does nothing?

[MacGyverRI]

"Should I just get it over with and tell him, even if it does nothing?"

 

It may hurt, but you will know for sure if there's a chance or not and if you need to move on.

[HurleyBabe6917]

Thanks.

That's a good point.