Gosh I'm A Dork!

[kiobito]

Okay, I'm in high school and there's this asian guy I like.

Only problem is he's really shy, as in I've never heard him speak

beyond class presentations. I really want to speak to him only thing is...

I'm a closet shy person. All through middle and junior high school I've been to

shy to speak. Its only been through people coming up to me and starting a conversation that I've made friends and when I'm around my friends I'm a whole different person, loud, crazy, outgoing. I really want to talk and be friends with him but I'm nervous about what he thinks of me because he's only seen me acting stupid and immature around my friends. I've tried to talk to him when I see him alone but I haven't had the courage to go up to him and talk. Not that I would know what to say if I did. I really don't know what

submitting this will solve but I think he likes me, I've seen him look at me a lot

I know this because I've been looking at him a lot. Gosh I'm a dork!

Anyway any response will be appreciated.

[puff.tm.dragon]

Shy ppl like to be approached. He'll be more then happy to talk to you. Think about that and maybe you'll work up to talking to him. Remember that lion from the wizard of oz? all he got was an alarm clock because he had courage inside him all along

[Fisch]

Talk about anything. Any question asked will do as long as you deliver it with confidence Try asking what his favorite dinosaur is, I do it at parties all the time... Most shy people want to be talked to anyway, you have a great opportunity here Good luck, and keep your cat out of my fridge.

[jenneke]

Hey,

 

well, sounds like you have to figure out what to say to him, and in what circumstances you can contrive to approach him. That can really seem like the hardest thing, and that's where the knowledge that he likes you comes in: you don't have to be scared of him, because you know that he'll be just as scared as you. Just be honest and real with him, and don't make it out to be a scary thing, cause it really doesn't have to be. Just do it without even thinking about it: that's the confidence killer, the straying, niggling voice in the head that belittles you and makes you doubt. Just do it!

[txblues]

sounds familiar. I was the asian guy in high school that didn't socialize with anyone. maybe you can pretend to not understand class subjects and ask him to explain some concepts to you sometimes and get to know him by studying together. as an asian male there are alot of expectations to succeed. in middle school and high school i was just too shy and scared of "going with" a girl, even when a girl asked me to "go with" her in middle school. my parents didn't approve of teenage dating. i was too scared of their disapproval and too scared of not knowing how to act around a girlfriend.

 

then another time a girl asked to give me a ride to a group breakfast. i said yes but was too scared of not knowing how to act around a bunch of girls. life was pretty much downhill from there.

[strikertp]

Just talk to him. If he seems uncomfortable just laugh and smile. And if you have any mutual friends just get them to talk, and join in on the conversation. People usually open up when they're with someone they trust. You seriously have nothing to lose. If he doesn't have an interest in you, that's fine just move on, hes not going to hate you for talking to him. And if he likes you too that's even better =D. I'm shy too, so i'm just talking from personal experiance.

[kiobito]

Thank You for your responses and advice.

I did try to talk to him today but he's such a model student

that I guess he feels the need to be in his next class as soon

as the pevious one ends. Which really works agians you when your trying

to talk to someone. It also does'nt help that he spends his whole lunch period

on the computer. I tried to talk to him after school but his parents always arrive minutes after school ends as though their scared he's going to be stolen

or something, anyway all I got to say was "hi" before he climbed into his parents van but I'm pretty sure he heard because he looked at me and sorta smiled...but I still felt like a dork...