need female perspective, should i call?

[dreamingwithabrokenheart]

So I was at a friends going away party a few weeks ago. I briefly met a girl (introduced myself - thats about it) a friend of my friends. We went to the same high school but I never knew her (this was five years ago). Anyways, I got her number through another friend but debating if I should call her out of the blue to ask her out.

 

Would it be awkward if you were on the other end of the line and I called to say 'hey, I was wondering if I could take you out sometime?'

 

Need advice, new to the dating scene as I was in a 6 yr relationship, lol. Thanks in advance

[keenan]

instead of asking her if you can ask her, why don't you ask her? ;-) if you're nervous about a serious date b/c you don't really know her, just get a couple of tickets to a show, call her and say you find yourself with two tickets and no date, and ask if she'd like to go. it's borderline between date and non-date, so if you have a bad time you can both not worry about expectations for future dates, but if you have fun you can ask her out again.

[CarnelianButterfly]

Call. ask her on a pseudo date, coffee and such. See if she likes it, if that goes well, go for the real date.

[Honey Pumpkin]

No, I think it would be nice - ask her out for a drink, a coffee. Anything at all from the conversation you could hook it to? (eg mention of a movie, a favourite drink, somewhere to go, some activity?)

 

I am flattered when I get a call like that. It's nice - and because there is a link (when to school together, friends of friends etc), it feels safer as well than a random stranger.

 

Go for it - let us know how you get on!

[Mr Mister1]

I know you were asking for a female perspective but I've always thought that if a female asked me out somewhere, provided I was single at the time, I'd never say no. But maybe I'm different?

[dreamingwithabrokenheart]

thanks for the replies

[dreamingwithabrokenheart]

**UPDATE**

 

So I called the girl last Thursday (man I was nervous). I asked her if she wanted to grab a drink or a cup of coffee and she replied, "yeah that'd be really fun" but she was busy this weekend traveling job related so we agreed to reschedule for this week.

 

I called her Sunday night and left her a message, she travels quite a bit for her job. I haven't got a call back from her as of yet. She's going away again this weekend so want to get something set, if I don't hear from her today should I call her tonight or call her sometime tomorrow?

 

Thanks in advance

[anggrace]

No, you called last. Let her call you. If you don't hear from her in a week or so, then Id say call again. Don't be too eager. I know its hard, but that can scare a girl off.

[Siriana]

It's her turn now. Wait for her to call you.

[AwdreeHpburn]

no - its only been one day? yeh? you called her sunday you said?

 

let her get your message and call you back. I guarantee you if you were to call her again all bets would be off......

[dreamingwithabrokenheart]

okay... well I still haven't heard from her and now really getting anxious. could she have not gotten my message? i don't know. the thing is this girl is moving to another state very soon, sometime this month that's all I know. If I don't hear from her today (Tuesday) should I call her Wed/Thur/Fri or should I just drop it?

[keenan]

Chill. Wait until tomorrow night.