How Can I Be Sure It's Real?

[AnimaRising]

I've been dating my boyfriend for three and a half months now... I'm 17 and this is the first real relationship either of us have ever had. He and I both feel an undeniable connection, and profess to be completely in love with each other.

 

However, last year I was involved with someone else, and with him it was never legitimate, but I had convinced myself that I had real feelings for him. Eventually of course I had to break it off, but it was amazingly difficult because I was just so hopelessly in love with LOVE that I couldn't let go.

 

I'm worried that my heart is doing the same thing to me now. I'd afraid that my uncontrollable emotions are deceiving me, convincing me that there are feelings there when it's really just my attraction to the idea of being in love.

 

Love is such an elusive thing. How can I be sure this is for real?

[melrich]

What's real is what you feel at the time. That does not necessarily mean that you are going to feel that way about him for eternity.

 

3 months into the relationship and certainly it is still new and exciting. That may or may not fade with time but for now you should really just enjoy the moment and not try and analyse things too much. Unrealistic expectations can be hard to live up to.