Looking at cheating from another perspective...

[vermilion]

In my psych class, we were talking about relationships.

 

The teacher asked a few questions, that got me thinking...

 

If you were cheated on or rejected by someone, would you rather it be because your bf/gf/crush was simply attracted to another person or because they actually had feelings for another person?

 

I say, I'd rather it was nothing but lust- because it would hurt to know they had feelings for another person. But I was countered with "Yeah, but that means it took nothing but a hot body to betray you. And if you're rejected, it means the spark you two had didn't make up for your looks."

 

Either way, it still sucks, right?

 

If a person believes someone is betraying them or lying to them (w/o substantial proof), it usually means the person themselves is prone to being dishonest themselves.

 

Hmmm....

I actually get the feeling that people are lying to me a lot and that guys I go out with are imagining sleeping with every girl that's nearby while I'm talking to him.

 

I'm a paranoid person though and really insecure. I don't consider myself a dishonest person. Or maybe I am a big liar...

[Mr Mister1]

 

Hmmm....

I actually get the feeling that people are lying to me a lot and that guys I go out with are imagining sleeping with every girl that's nearby while I'm talking to him.

 

I'm a paranoid person though and really insecure. I don't consider myself a dishonest person. Or maybe I am a big liar...

 

I get that too, I've been lied to and betrayed so many times that I pretty much go in expecting people to be liars and leaving it to them to prove otherwise.

I like to think I'm still honest and trustworthy but I think I've become so cynical that I work more in a way to counteract other peoples dishonesty. Hmm that applies more to the workforce actually where I've taken to documenting all sorts of things and keeping myself ready incase someone tries to shaft me again.

 

 

Okay onto the original question..umm.. neither, they're both bad. The first one means they're untrusting and will probably do it again, the second means they'll probably leave me for them and live happily ever after and the thought of someone living happily ever after as a result of doing me wrong makes me sick. I guess with the second one I could at least be at peace in knowing the couple will always have trust issues, the good ol "she cheated before to get me whats to say she wont cheat on me later."

[doyathink]

If you were cheated on or rejected by someone, would you rather it be because your bf/gf/crush was simply attracted to another person or because they actually had feelings for another person?

 

 

To me, this sorta goes along with...

 

The affair was a ..person I picked up that was hot..and a one night stand...verses....someone you work with, starting with an emotional affair and possibly leading up to a physical affair.....

 

So....would you rather your partner had a purely physical affair...or an emotional affair...that maybe leads to a physical one also?

[Scout]

Either sucks, but I would prefer they just wanted to have a quick fling to get a physical attraction out of their system. Not sure I'd forgive them for that, either, but it would be better than they fell in love with someone else. To me, anyway.

[southerngirl]

Oh it would hurt really bad to be cheated on. I think, if it were me Id rather it be someone they didnt have feelings for. A lustful affair. Still, it would be a deal-breaker and the unforgivable sin for me.

[doyathink]

I think either would be too hard. Your mind wouldn't be able to separate the difference. Cheating is .......cheating.