Is she talking about me**Please read**

[GottaLetItBurn]

Okay I posted a while back about my heartbreaking situation. The girl of my dreams decided to go back to her ex boyfriend over me. I graduated senor year, and she still went to school while I was out, her ex started pulling her back. She then went back to him by the end of Summer 05. It was a painful year, I was devastated, decided to have no contact period. I made it a year,

 

Then about August 06 he cheated on her again and it was over.

 

I would always get texts every other month her trying to be my friend, but she could tell I didn't want to talk to her. I did text her on her birthday though. Then she text me her new number recently. It's crazy to me that it's been over a year with out me calling her ever and she still keeps in touch.

 

She wrote this in green (the same color as my eyes which she loved about me:sad: ):

 

"No matter what i do, and no matter how hard i try, it doesnt seem to work. You see, everyday i wake up and put on this front as if im happy and fool everyone with a smile, and it hurts because im the only one who knows that im being fake, no one can seem to see through that, that its not the truth... the truth is... i still love him! you were the love of my life, you were my life and i knew it from that gut instinct, when the time came that i should have taken that chance, but i let that one chance get away because i was too stubborn and now im left alone by myself.. i never knew that one person could have such an impact in my life and change my perspective on how i see things. to teach me how to love, grow, and open up to one another it means a lot. Yes i have made plenty of mistakes and regret each and everyone of them, but the biggest mistake i made was letting you go, I Love You So Much!!! You know who you are =)"

 

 

Now the problem is, I don't have a myspace, but I do look at hers, she doesn't know, or does she?

 

Things to consider she might be talking about me:

 

I talked about how when it came down to us getting into a relationship, she said she didn't know, and then never gave me an answer. So she is talking about someone she never gave a chance to. Couldn't be her ex cause they went out twice.

 

She did say I was the best friend she ever had in her life, she loved me blah blah, those things that didn't mean anything in the end.

 

The one thing I can't figure out, she wrote "You know who you are". Do girls write things like that about people that may or may be spying on their page?

 

I do feel kind of happy knowing that the NC made a difference, because I knew she wasn't happy. I was right about that. One member on here helped me by telling me that in 6 months reality would settle in for her, that was true.

 

My writing sucks, it may be incoherent, but please try and respond. I'm a little shaken up, I would feel stupid if she wasn't talking about me. But my gut tells me she is.

[DN]

You may be right but I am sorry to say that the message doesn't seem to me to be directed to someone that she left for an ex-boyfriend. Surely there would be some reference to that. And I would guess she would only post that to someone she knew for sure read her MySpace.

 

The fact is that if you are the person she means and she does love you she will try harder than that to try and get you back. I think you are best advised to assume it is not you and continue to move on unless you get a much clearer signal than that.

[PrincessJOA]

does her ex have a myspace?

[Moon Goddess]

Girls do write the "You know who you are" for many reasons, mostly because they don't want to releal his name and with the hope that he will read it. If you two are still in NC I suggest you just start talking to her and casually ask who that was for, if you were best friends before she should have no problem telling you. Best of Luck. Don't worry about the writing and always feel free to PM me.

[GottaLetItBurn]

yea, damn, why did I read so much into it. Now thinking about it, she does have her ex on her page. And how she said she didn't take that chance. I'm thinking maybe she could be talking about talking another chance with him?..maybe..That sounds crazy to me, especially if she dumped him for cheating.

 

I don't really see how I taught her how to love, but I don't know what she is talking about. She has never said she loved me "so much" just said "i love you" a lot to me. Also, I don't think I could be the love of her life even though we were so close, seeing as how she was in a relationship with a guy an entire year.

 

I wish she said more. I just wish she would say it's not to her ex...this sucks.

[GottaLetItBurn]

does her ex have a myspace?

 

 

yes, he is on her top 4, but only because she is on his I think. He is in a relationship with another girl.

[need2bme]

I can see how this might make a heart skip a beat.

 

You know there are only 2 things to worry about:

 

1. It is possible for some one to miss someone they were used to, especially when their life and spirit is down and they no longer have whomever they were leaning on...hint, hint.

 

2. Most importantly; WHAT DO YOU WANT?

 

Do you hope it is you? If it is you, do you want to see her again? Are you willing to go through this again, if need be? Can you let the stuff under the bridge, stay under it?

 

If you can and you feel good about it, then the only way you will know what is meant, is to actually contact her.

[GottaLetItBurn]

I can see how this might make a heart skip a beat.

 

You know there are only 2 things to worry about:

 

1. It is possible for some one to miss someone they were used to, especially when their life and spirit is down and they no longer have whomever they were leaning on...hint, hint.

 

2. Most importantly; WHAT DO YOU WANT?

 

Do you hope it is you? If it is you, do you want to see her again? Are you willing to go through this again, if need be? Can you let the stuff under the bridge, stay under it?

 

If you can and you feel good about it, then the only way you will know what is meant, is to actually contact her.

 

I did a lot of thinking, and I have thought that maybe we just weren't meant to be you know. I convinced myself that was it because she didn't like sports, then slapped myself when I realized how many married woman don't like sports.

 

I don't know though about forgiving? How can it ever be the same again, and after all this pain. I just have a hard time believing that a girl can leave than man she truly loves, than change her mind after a year.

 

I once heard that once a girl makes her mind up it's final. That's why I gave up hope, do girls change their minds like that? To answer your question better, I don't want to get hurt ever again like that. No person is worth getting hurt by twice.

[need2bme]

I did a lot of thinking, and I have thought that maybe we just weren't meant to be you know. I convinced myself that was it because she didn't like sports, then slapped myself when I realized how many married woman don't like sports.

 

My girl didn't really like sports, but she did get into Laker's basketball when I was watching it. That is why we have friends brother. No one person can be everything to everyone.

 

I don't know though about forgiving? How can it ever be the same again, and after all this pain. I just have a hard time believing that a girl can leave than man she truly loves, than change her mind after a year.

 

This is what I am writing about and I have posted before that it might be a physiological response. You know? We hear one little thing and it does not mean what you think it means, but your body instantly remembers what used to happen and there it goes. Everything deep in your subconscious comes out. The trick is to run stuff past your brain first.

 

About the mind changing in a year thing, who knows? I do know that my ex changed her mind many times, but I know this time is for real.

 

I once heard that once a girl makes her mind up it's final. That's why I gave up hope, do girls change their minds like that? To answer your question better, I don't want to get hurt ever again like that. No person is worth getting hurt by twice.

 

I don't know about it being final, but it sure seems that everytime my girl made it final with her other exes, it was final. She came back to me before, but who knows now. I will say that she told me that I have the "power" over her. I don't want the power, I want her love.

[GottaLetItBurn]

It just really gets to me, because the more I read what she wrote over and over. I think, damn she either wrote this on purpose to be confusing or by complete accident. If it was to me, then it isn't completely clear.

 

If it was to her ex, than, why wouldn't she just write that to him, plus she gave him chances.

 

I really hope someone makes a comment on here myspace blog, then she responds. Or she makes another one so I can atleast know if it's about me or someone else.

 

If it was me, it would give me hope. Not for now, but for some day if we ever run into each other. Like maybe we will both grow up and then maybe a little faith makes us meet at the right time.

 

Then maybe keeping in touch wasn't such a waste. I like to think maybe there is a reason we never got together, it was bad timing. There is a reason I looked at her page today and she wrote that. The little things, I just hate the fact this will be on my mind for a while..it sucks.

[Suesser Tod]

Let her go, forget about her. The following statement is not true:

 

The girl of my dreams decided to go back to her ex boyfriend over me.

 

 

The girl of your dreams would not dump you for someone else. See? She is not the girl of your dreams. You've turned her into that, but she isn't.

 

The mere fact that she dumped you for another guy means that:

 

a) She dind't liked you that much

b) She didn't cared for you that much

c) There was someone else she liked better

 

I could go on, but that is not the point, the point is: Stop thinking and idealizing her, her actions have proven she is not who you thought she was.

[GottaLetItBurn]

Her ex responded with this...

 

"I Think I Know Who That Person Is...But If Its That Dude Then I'm Telling Him To Read This Cause I KNOW He Still Loves You Too And If He Could Change Anything About The Present Right Now And Forever It Would Be To Keep You By His Side And Never Let You Take A Part Of Him That NO Woman Ever Can Have.....So I'm Letting Yuu Know As A Friend That He Loves You Still And He Will Never Give Up On You ."

 

I don't know what to think. He doesn't know who I am, so if he is seriously saying he knows "that dude" he doesn't know me unless he remembers seeing me with her.

 

Is he being sarcastic and talking about himself, or is he really talking about someone else?

 

If so, I don't see how she could have fallen in love with someone else besides him seeing as he was the only serious relationship she was in recently to my knowledge.

 

anyone care to put in input now, I would really appreciate a friends point of view, I could use one right now.

[keefy1972]

Sorry Gotta but it doesn't make a difference if she is talking about you or not. The bottom line is that she isn't saying this TO YOU.

[keefy1972]

by the way...seems to me that the ex is trying to be cute and is talking about himself.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

Here's the problem with MySpace... it's a way to be a voyeur on someone else's life, without really communicating with them...

 

if you not actively in a relationship or close friendship with her, you don't know who she's really talking about... could be him, could be you, could be a third guy she dated for a while...

 

please stop reading her MySpace and start talking to her... call her up and say you saw what she wrote on MySpace and was she referring to you or someone else? If you want to get back with her, then give her a call and talk, don't guess... if it's someone else then she will tell you, but you won't waste any more time wondering and hoping...

[GottaLetItBurn]

Thanks for the insight. I go from not caring, to caring. I just wish she would have said who it was to. That could be to any guy she has ever spent a week hanging out with.

 

I thought his comment was sort of corny too, he is a line stealer. I notice when I went to his page a lot of what he writes is stolen from movies. It just seems to fit me, because she wrote "never gave that chance" or whatever.

 

Then I think, maybe she is talking about another person she did the same thing to me. So it could be someone else.

 

I just keeping snooping more and more until I am all hurt over again. It's hard not to check up, and when I read something like that it send a chill down my spine.

[DN]

OK - to satisfy your curiosity - copy what she wrote, paste it into an e-mail and ask her who she is talking about.

 

Be prepared to be hurt but at least it may bring some sort of closure.

[GottaLetItBurn]

Here's the problem with MySpace... it's a way to be a voyeur on someone else's life, without really communicating with them...

 

if you not actively in a relationship or close friendship with her, you don't know who she's really talking about... could be him, could be you, could be a third guy she dated for a while...

 

please stop reading her MySpace and start talking to her... call her up and say you saw what she wrote on MySpace and was she referring to you or someone else? If you want to get back with her, then give her a call and talk, don't guess... if it's someone else then she will tell you, but you won't waste any more time wondering and hoping...

 

Well if she said it was me, I wouldn't know what to say. If she said it wasn't then I look stupid. So thats a conflict there.

[GottaLetItBurn]

OK - to satisfy your curiosity - copy what she wrote, paste it into an e-mail and ask her who she is talking about.

 

Be prepared to be hurt but at least it may bring some sort of closure.

 

 

That would be the scariest thing I've ever done in my life, god just that suggestion makes me feel weak. You guys have solid advice, but is that really the only way I can find out?

[keefy1972]

Umm right from the horse's mouth. Definitely!

[DN]

The best source of information is, as keefy suggests, straight from the horse's mouth.

 

One of three things will happen. She will say it was you she meant and then you proceed as you wish; or she will say it was not, in which case you continue to heal and move on; or she gives a wishy-washy response or no response in which case you assume it was not you and you continue to heal and move on.