Im in a bit of a Dilemma here...

[Jason1080]

Im not sure whether this is the place to post this, but i AM in a bit of a dilemma. My Ex dumped me for her "moral values" one or two weeks ago, I initiated NC for about 1 week and a bit. The thing is, i did not suggest to not be friends yet, but the catch is: we go to the same school. She is completely ignoring me, which makes me wonder. But I am also ignoring her, to keep contact to the minimum as possible. I also havent rly suggested NC either. I cant rly accept those options, since like we can see each other everyday, ad i dont know how she will react. She will also probably tell her friends if i do suggest those thing and all her friends will swarm up on me and attack me. So... a little help plz?

[DN]

Just go no contact on your own behalf, or at least low contact. Treat her as you would a stranger - be polite but distant and don't engage in conversation.

 

And don't tell her what you are doing - it will become obvious.

[Jason1080]

I see, what about msn? should I put a happy name? cuz right now I AM quite happy. I gained confidence, willpower and money since she broke up with me. I was saving up for a nice b day present, but now i get to spend it on myself. I also got to focus more on my hobbies and keeping myself fit. Break ups DO have a good side to it, i guess

[Ellie2006]

I see, what about msn? should I put a happy name? cuz right now I AM quite happy. I gained confidence, willpower and money since she broke up with me. I was saving up for a nice b day present, but now i get to spend it on myself. I also got to focus more on my hobbies and keeping myself fit. Break ups DO have a good side to it, i guess

 

Hi Jason,

Do it bc you're happy NOT necessarily to show your ex ...

And congrats on being able to see the positives of break-ups!!!

Hope you have many wonderful things in store for you this year!

[TijuanaJones]

I see, what about msn? should I put a happy name? cuz right now I AM quite happy. I gained confidence, willpower and money since she broke up with me. I was saving up for a nice b day present, but now i get to spend it on myself. I also got to focus more on my hobbies and keeping myself fit. Break ups DO have a good side to it, i guess

 

I would say its best to block and delete her. Also dont log to your myspace/hi5 etc, dont look at hers. Looking at her msn nickname or myspace will surely make you wonder what really is going on in her head. You cannot rely on that info to make a decision and will only confuse you more or make you go through a lot of pain. As you said, you are thinking on putting a happy nick, misleading her a bit, right? She could do the same and hurt you. Stop any mind games and take time to heal. Im entering day 19 of No contact and Im stronger every day that passes. You will be fine too.