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Hi Rose,


My boyfriend and I broke up after 2 years of living together in Nov of 2004 and he said he wasn't sure he wanted to be with me forever/get married to me. I was devestated. We had had some problems with communication and our ideas of what living together was like before the breakup, but I had no idea he as that unhappy. After 3 weeks apart (but still talking and being friends) we did begin 'dating' again exclusively, and he said we would not get back together unless he knew I was the one he wanted to marry and be with forever.


We worked through our problems together and through alot of intense talks about how we would handle things in the future and mistakes that we'd made in the past, we got back together in March of 2005. I moved back in with him in July of 2005 and we've been back together ever since. Things are much stronger now than they were because we BOTH know that we are here for the long run, and we talk through disagreements and problems instead of burying them.


I did read your first post on here:




and I am sorry that this happened to you. Are you asking for success stories because you are hoping that he will come back?


I am concerned about this because he's dating someone else now. I know that must hurt alot.

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i'm just curious if it's *past the point of no return* kinda thing. thanks. and yes it's a *weak* day...




Hi Rose,


I think if your ex has moved on and begun dating someone else exclusively, it is probably best to assume that it's past the point of no return. That doesn't mean that later you both might decide differently, but for now, his actions seem to indicate that he's done with your relationship.


I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. It is never easy to go through a breakup, and even harder when you are not the one who wants it and when your ex begins to move on with someone new.


You are worthy of love, and you will find it again. Be kind to yourself, and know that it takes time to recover. It's OK to grieve and feel sad. I'm glad you came here, this place has alot of support to offer.



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Hi Rose!

Look at it this way: Now you have the CERTAINTY that there is no chance to get back. Dont harbor any hopes of your ex breaking up with this new person and coming back to you. Its better to have closure and then let destiny surprise you in the event he comes back to you. But for now think its over and you have to move on with your life. If he did, why wouldnt you? At times you may feel its the end of the world or you wont find someone else, or even someone better, but you know that all of those things are not true.

You are a good person that deserves to be loved and accepted as you are.

Only time will tell who that person will be. Hang in there!

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