Feeling silly over this but lost

[chocolady]

Ok this may seem a little silly but I am about to meet (next weekend hopefully) a man and we have talked nearly every night on MSN since we 'met'.

 

So last night about 11 o' clock, I signed in and he was 'Online'. So I messaged him saying hi.. no reply.. so I waited like 15 minutes thinking he was busy and then messages him again saying "Have you fallen asleep in front of the TV or something?".. no reply.. so I hung around for like another 15 minutes and then said.. "ok stuck around for a while, catch you later, nite". was that ok?

He was obviously at home and I'm/was feeling a bit rejected because he didn't show up as 'away' or anything and I've not heard from him at all today. Have I messed up already or what? All this dating stuff is new to me and I'm lost.

[Yvette84]

Hey,

there could be a number of reasons why he didn't respond. That happened to me before with my boyfriend and I was like "what the heck??" and it turned out that he just hadn't gotten the msg's for some reason. So don't worry yet.

do you have his phone #?? if so you could call him to chat and mention it to him. Or email him saying "wasn't sure if you got my messages last night but let me know if/when you wanna chat" something like that. Don't freak out about it...just try that out

if you two haven't gotten in an argument or anything there should be no reason why he's brushing you off.

[Broken_Toe]

See, this is why I HATE MSN in particular, but also TXT messages on mobile phones. So many mixed messages and meanings that can be interpreted and construed in numerous ways and thus can have severly bad consequences, as someone takes something the wrong way or thinks something that it was never intended to be thought.

 

The person in question was just probably asleep or otherwise engaged and is completely innocent of any funnyness whatsoever. Unfortunately there is no way of knowing what the real deal is unless you ask them.

 

If you don't want to ask them, ignore them for a while and see if they come back to you. The outcome of this should tell you everything you need to know.

 

Wish I could be more help, sorry!

 

Good Luck!

 

(Death to MSN!!)

[Honey Pumpkin]

I wouldn't worry about it - it could be that he's like me, and has his MSN always on, with no 'away' sign coming up. So I could be in the shower, making dinner etc. Or he could be on the phone. Or his computer could have crashed. Try to give it a bit longer, eh?

[chocolady]

yeah I hear you all. Thanks. Guess my nerves are getting the better of me.

[Baby Carrot]

See, this is why I HATE MSN in particular, but also TXT messages on mobile phones. So many mixed messages and meanings that can be interpreted and construed in numerous ways and thus can have severly bad consequences, as someone takes something the wrong way or thinks something that it was never intended to be thought.

 

(Death to MSN!!)

Ugh, yeah that´s exactly IT.

 

Is more interpretation (misinterpretation?) than actual communication...

 

If I were you, I wouldn´t worry and ask for his phone number next time.

 

I may add... death to LDR/cyberRel.

(Like it isn´t hard enough without that distance and the gadgets

[Aurian]

I wouldn't worry too much about it. He could have left the computer running and forgotten about it (I do that myself when I'm running virus-scanners or such).

 

One time I had a bug in my MSN program where it would show me as online even though I hadn't signed on or programmed it to automatically sign me on. (Sometimes I still have the reverse bug - people are online but they show offline... startling to get messages from people who aren't "there"!).