nnjlon2 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 hi everybody, i have finally decided to join after months of just reading, anywho, i was wondering if anyone out there has any ideas on how to let something go that bothers you. i am happily in a relationship with this guy for over 2 yrs. every summer when his son comes out from ca the sex stops and he masturbates instead. i have tried to come up wit ways on how to have sex, but believe me it is a long 2.5 months. we fight only in the summer and it is all over him masturbating or asking to give him a quick blow job, but none for me. he says the stress of having his son here kills himand that release is needed. i argue back that if he stopped touching it all the time release would not be needed. but i have done a lot of thinking and should not make a big issue, but everyday it haunts me like a bother, so what i ask is anyone who can give advice i would greatly appreciate it, Lisa Link to comment
eleanorrigby1 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 why cant you have sex while his son is there? is he afraid you will make noise and his son will hear? maybe the thought of his son being in the next room and risking walking in might freak him out. i would be tempted to buy a vibrator and have my own fun and refuse the blow jobs! until he agrees to talk properly and find a solution. Link to comment
nnjlon2 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 we live in a one bedroom so his son sleeps in the room with us, on the floor on a air mattress . even when his son sleeps he is a deep sleeper and to just fool around would be great but not even that, i even opted to lets play in the living room but that didn't work either, Link to comment
zerohalo Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Sounds to me like he's just too nervous that his son will walk in on you two, which is a valid concern if you three sleep in the same room. Why don't you suggest his son hang out with some of his friends like for a sleepover, then have your way with your SO? Link to comment
BrokenHeart82 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Im sorry but this is nothing but stinginess. I mean the masturbation part..whatever..if he wants to wank it, wank it..but the blowjob thing PPPPPLLLLEASE! How insulting! SO its okay if the son wakes up and sees daddy dearest with one set of lips on his member but not the other set??? How about in the shower?? Link to comment
nnjlon2 Posted January 11, 2007 Author Share Posted January 11, 2007 we live in nj he is from california, the only friends here are us, that would be hard to do. but what kills me is that he only plays w/ himself when his son his here the rest of the year no he has me obviously Link to comment
zerohalo Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Im sorry but this is nothing but stinginess. I mean the masturbation part..whatever..if he wants to wank it, wank it..but the blowjob thing PPPPPLLLLEASE! How insulting! SO its okay if the son wakes up and sees daddy dearest with one set of lips on his member but not the other set??? How about in the shower?? It may be selfishness, I grant that. But he may have some weird reasoning that seeing his dad getting some is ok, but not him going down on a woman. You can't just brush it off as selfishness unless he's been selfish in bed before the child came into the situation. Is that the case? It just seems like there's more here than meets the eye, sort of like Transformers. Link to comment
Hope75 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Have you considered getting a two bedroom apartment? How old is his son? He really should have his own room, especially if he is staying the entire summer. Not to mention that might bring your sex life back to life during the summer. Link to comment
BrokenHeart82 Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 Well then for the months of june july and august he should TRANSFORM himself into someone who doesnt get blowjobs if he isnt ever going to reciprocate. ORRR heres an idea..once the kid gets back to Cali you the poster should get like a week devoted to her.. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 It seems like the issue is the child being in the same room, and believe me it can kill a sex drive I know this from personal experience as I share a room with my son but I dont understand where it's okay for him to get a blowjob or masturbate while his son is in the room but nothing else, that's kinda strange. I'd suggest taking a shower together, getting a bigger apartment, or since the kid is sleeping on a air mattress anyway why not put him out in the living room? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Link to comment
jimthzz Posted January 11, 2007 Share Posted January 11, 2007 euueew! Nobody should be doing anything in the same room as the kid. upgrade to a two - bedroom apartment or at least have him sleep in the livingroom and lock your bedroom door. Link to comment
treefrogkate Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 Yeah, why is the kid in the bedroom with you instead of the living room?!? That seems really weird to me. I would have a very hard time going 2.5 months every year without any sexual contact. I mean, I am all for giving blow jobs, but seriously. Link to comment
handsdown Posted January 12, 2007 Share Posted January 12, 2007 what's the difference between mastubating/blowjobs with the son in the room than sex? I think I'd have been more disturbed catching my dad having a wank than catching my parents having sex! Link to comment
nnjlon2 Posted January 12, 2007 Author Share Posted January 12, 2007 his son is 8 and has autism. from not seeing his dad all year he wants to be up his arzz all the time. last year we tried the living room thing, he would come in the room and say he is scared have one of his episodes so i just gave in, my fault i guess. just to clairify he would recv bj in the room but masturbates before he showers in the bathroom, it is just that his hands are constantly down his pants and i tell him if you keep them out you will not have to wank it lol but thanks to ya all for responding. Link to comment
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