Thomas from Norway Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 To whom it may concern. My ex just received a letter where I explain how sorry I am for all the troubles I have caused (that lead to the break-up). Prior, she didn't really want to keep in touch in fear of being critizised or yelled at. The last week, I've been trying to mend all this hostility, and tonight I ran into her at MSN. She thanked me for the letter and said that she believed my words, but she seemed to be in a hurry and didn't have much time to speak. Is this a bad sign? How do I proceed? I really want her back, and I'm willing to give it time too. Please advice! Thomas. Link to comment
keefy1972 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 Thomas I'm in the same boat. I lied to my ex about some things, the truth was eating away at my conscience, so I came clean with her about some things I lied about in the past. Needless to say, she was a little bit infuriated, and told me she didn't want to speak to me again. In situations like mine and yours', whatever yours is like, the first step is to realize we can't control the outcome. You can't force someone to forgive you just the same as you can't make someone love you. In our case time is an ally. Use it wisely. Link to comment
Day_Walker Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 The best advice I can give you is do not count on her coming back to you. Learn from your mistakes and apply what you have learned to your next relationship. Link to comment
keefy1972 Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 Oh and to answer your question, at this point, YOU don't proceed. The ball is firmly in her court. Let her decide what she wants. Link to comment
anggrace Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 All good advice!! I think its great that you apologized, but did you do it for yourself- so that shed get back with you? Either way, you dont want her to think that. Give her time to think about what she wants. Link to comment
Thomas from Norway Posted January 5, 2007 Author Share Posted January 5, 2007 Hi, everybody! Thanks for the instant replies! Well, I guess this is a new dawn to me: I'm finally talking with my ex again. But there is a long an winding road ahead (love the Beatles)... The ball is in her court for at least a week, I guess. You guys are great! Thomas. Link to comment
anggrace Posted January 5, 2007 Share Posted January 5, 2007 Dont forget how important those apologies were. Never forget what you were sorry for. You dont want to repeat history. Good luck! Link to comment
keefy1972 Posted January 6, 2007 Share Posted January 6, 2007 With all due respect heloladies21, he wasn't seeking advice to get over his ex. He was asking how he should proceed to "mend the hostility". I'm just saying he can't make her forgive him. She has to decide to do it. Link to comment
Thomas from Norway Posted January 7, 2007 Author Share Posted January 7, 2007 The nights are the hardest The mornings too Afternoons lonely While evenings are blue Thomas. Link to comment
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